Bridal party "gift"

Knottie71949479

I am strongly considering, rather than giving a tangible bridal party gift, to bring all my girls to the nail salon for manicures and pedicures before the wedding with some mimosas or champagne. The salon has already agreed to this (they regularly serve wine to their guests). Is this acceptable? Will they be expecting more? Thanks for the help!

ShesSoCold

Knottie71949479 said:

I am strongly considering, rather than giving a tangible bridal party gift, to bring all my girls to the nail salon for manicures and pedicures before the wedding with some mimosas or champagne. The salon has already agreed to this (they regularly serve wine to their guests). Is this acceptable? Will they be expecting more? Thanks for the help!

That sounds nice, but it's not a gift. You should shop for your bridesmaids individually as you would for their birthday or Christmas (so also none of that matchy-matchy "Bridesmaid" crap).

glasgowtolondon

Maybe you should read that book you suggested yesterday. 


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Knottie71949479

ShesSoCold said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I am strongly considering, rather than giving a tangible bridal party gift, to bring all my girls to the nail salon for manicures and pedicures before the wedding with some mimosas or champagne. The salon has already agreed to this (they regularly serve wine to their guests). Is this acceptable? Will they be expecting more? Thanks for the help!

That sounds nice, but it's not a gift. You should shop for your bridesmaids individually as you would for their birthday or Christmas (so also none of that matchy-matchy "Bridesmaid" crap).

It is not a tangible gift, but it is still a gift in the sense that their nails are not my responsibility to pay for. And yes, I agree will the matchy bridesmaid crap, including matching wedding jewelry! Hate that...

flantastic

Knottie71949479 said:

ShesSoCold said:

Knottie71949479 said:

I am strongly considering, rather than giving a tangible bridal party gift, to bring all my girls to the nail salon for manicures and pedicures before the wedding with some mimosas or champagne. The salon has already agreed to this (they regularly serve wine to their guests). Is this acceptable? Will they be expecting more? Thanks for the help!

That sounds nice, but it's not a gift. You should shop for your bridesmaids individually as you would for their birthday or Christmas (so also none of that matchy-matchy "Bridesmaid" crap).

It is not a tangible gift, but it is still a gift in the sense that their nails are not my responsibility to pay for. And yes, I agree will the matchy bridesmaid crap, including matching wedding jewelry! Hate that...

Yes, but it's a crappy gift in the sense that your gift is either 1) time with you or 2) a manicure.

I don't get manicures, so this wouldn't be a gift tailored to my likes and interests. I don't understand the point of gifts if the recipient wouldn't care for them. And if someone else gets manicures pretty regularly, they probably already have a salon and nail tech that they like.

If I were going to get one, a better gift would be a manicure at a time when I care if my nails look really nice, and your wedding is probably not that occasion. You're the one who would care, and if you're having this spa party because you do care or because you want everyone together, it's really a gift for you.

Knottie71949479

Ok, thanks for the input. I just thought that since this is something they are already going to do, that it would help them out financially, after their expenses of being a bridesmaid. 

glasgowtolondon

Slow night, @Knottie71949479 ? Wow, sure an impressive amount of questions you have tonight. It's almost like each question manages to hit on hot button topics that you know posters will respond to. Almost like you planned it that way.

flantastic

Knottie71949479 said:

Ok, thanks for the input. I just thought that since this is something they are already going to do, that it would help them out financially, after their expenses of being a bridesmaid. 

Something they're already going to do? Everyone is by their own choice and not at all your suggestion going to get manicures the day before your wedding? How interesting.

Knottie71949479

flantastic said:

Knottie71949479 said:

Ok, thanks for the input. I just thought that since this is something they are already going to do, that it would help them out financially, after their expenses of being a bridesmaid. 

Something they're already going to do? Everyone is by their own choice and not at all your suggestion going to get manicures the day before your wedding? How interesting.

Yes, it is by their own choice. I have not spoken about manicures at all. They have asked me when I'm going so they can join me. Thanks anyways though. 

geebee908

If manicures are something you've told them to get for the wedding day, then you should be paying for those and they're not a gift if they're required.

Knottie71949479

geebee908 said:

If manicures are something you've told them to get for the wedding day, then you should be paying for those and they're not a gift if they're required.

I have no told anyone to get anything. They have told me they're going to get it, and have asked me when I'm going to get mine done so they can join. 

levioosa

No, their gifts should in no way be tied to the wedding.  Shop for each girl like it is their birthday.  

Knottie71949479

levioosa said:

No, their gifts should in no way be tied to the wedding.  Shop for each girl like it is their birthday.  

Ok. That seems to be the general consensus. So then when they all join me to get their nails done (on their own free will. I have not required this) will it be expected that I pay for them? It is rude to just pay for myself? 

levioosa

Knottie71949479 said:

levioosa said:

No, their gifts should in no way be tied to the wedding.  Shop for each girl like it is their birthday.  

Ok. That seems to be the general consensus. So then when they all join me to get their nails done (on their own free will. I have not required this) will it be expected that I pay for them? It is rude to just pay for myself? 

I think this is one of those situations where phrasing matters.  If you let them know that you are getting your nails done and they are welcome to join at X time and place, then they know it's not being covered by you and they can make their own decision to go.  

Knottie71949479

Thanks!