My best friend of over ten years asked me to be a backup brides-man? Yes, I'm a man, my friend getting married is a woman and I'm both extremely honored and slightly disappointed at the same time, on top of being completely confused. First, having even been considered was very unexpected, and I of course would love to be apart of her wedding in some way, but after some thought, I felt a little bad that she didn't actually ask me to stand up in the bridal party or to be a part of the wedding in any capacity and perhaps the more I thought about it, I have no clue what a "backup" is supposed to do - if anything at all? What could be expected of me? What should I do or not do? I'm completely comfortable doing anything for her so I guess I'm a little sad that I wasn't asked and I'm wondering should I feel slightly insulted by being second string because we talk to each other everyday, all day, for ten years. Do "backups" really exist? Do I do anything? Should I tell her how I feel or leave it be. I'll be flying to New York this winter for the wedding and Its expected to be a large production.