My FMIL is an absolute awesome woman. I admire her so much and we get along great! I can't wait till she goes from FMIL to just MIL lol! One problem has come up though that I know we won't agree on, the guest list. She really wants to invite a lot of distant family that neither she nor my FI are that close with but she doesn't want to exclude them, which i understand 100%. But, since I'm not inviting my distant family because they aren't close (have never even met half of them) and because we would be pushing our budget I feel like its ok to not invite my FI's distant relatives. She mentioned this to my FI very recently(everyone knew we were about to engaged) and now that the planning has begun I'm nervous she will push this on us. I'm thinking of just having my FI tell her no, but I wonder if it would be better if it came from me so she knows how much it matters to me? Any advice?