I am the MOH in my very best friends wedding... She has had some really challenging stuff handed to her over the years and I want to give her the best bachelorette party ever! However, I do not have unlimited means and have to work within a budget... there will be no fully paid trip in her future. However, I am borrowing a family member's beach house for a weekend (fri-sun).
The bride asked for a beach day and dinner at the house... Let's just say that 30 is the new 20 and we are not that newly 20....
So with the beach day there will be a few extras...
-Working on an active group activity (bride reads broads so I don't want to give details but it's an outside activity that will be fun)
-personalized cups for beach fun
- might get towels (in the wedding colors and write with bleach pen to customize)
-random prizes/goodies for the party goers
The house sleeps 9.
How do I invite the 21 people the bride would like at the beach day/dinner without putting people out that everyone cannot stay at the house. We can double up and use an air mattress and get to 11 but I cannot pack this house like we would have 10 years ago. I want to give the bride the fun day with lots of friends she wants while managing the fact that I cannot have 21 people sleep over.
I dont want to disappoint the bride, who means the world to me and has enough stress to deal with. I do not know all of these people so I dont know who to level with and have get the word out that there are only so many beds.
Oh and most of the guests are about 30-45 min away with a handful about 3 hours and a few (me included) in the 5-6 hour range. My thought was to open it up to the 5-6 hour guest first, in case they want to come down friday night and then open it up to the 3-4 hour then the close ppl. Or do I go by the closeness to the bride? Is there a PC way to word this on an invitation? Should I not mention it as an over night on the invite but tell a few people at a time? Do I level with the 21 guests and just tell everyone that there is limited space; everyone is welcome to play but only 1/2 can sleep over? Then there is my reluctance to send people who have been drinking on the road... I know I am making this harder then it has to be, I'm hoping one of you can look from a removed place and give me the clarity I need. Normally I bounce things off the bride, but dont need to give her my stress when I'm doing my best to take hers...
Oh and what's the protocol- do bachelorette party guests expect to chip in or have everything paid for in full?
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