Just need to vent...
I've been pretty vocal on TK about not changing my name and I've actually been fairly vocal in my real life about it, too. Not in an annoying preachy way, but just talking about it when it comes up and never hesitating to share my thoughts and opinions on the topic.
People in the hospital and at the nursing home call me Mrs. H's Name and I don't correct them, not really a big deal IMO.
But the assumptions by random acquaintances are really getting to me. I've recently received gifts of a "He stole her heart so she's stealing his last name" plaque and a decorative letter that is H's last initial, and received a wedding card addressed to "Mrs. HisFirst HistLast" - which REALLY frosts me, to not even use my damn first name! My orthodontist and H's work benefits both TOLD me (not asked, but TOLD) to do X, Y, and Z to change my name with them.
And the officiant at our wedding announced us as Mr. & Mrs. HisFirst HisLast and then before he left gave me 5 minutes of instructions on changing my name. Granted, we only hired him three days before the wedding so we didn't have a meeting to hash through a lot of things, but I still had the annoyance flaring up.
Also, people on facebook constantly make comments. My mom's friends (I don't even know them) will comment if she tags me in something, "You used the wrong name, she's a married lady now!" Uhhhhhh slow your roll, people. Jeez. Maybe there's a reason I haven't changed it on facebook yet...
And since I'm ranting let me go back to Christmas when we received a card from my SIL that was sent to our OLD address (we had been moved for six months and she had been to our new house and we had sent her correspondence from the new address several times, including a Christmas card!) and had the most convoluted writing of our names ever... she's very "proper" about these kinds of things (she corrects people who say "congratulations" to the bride, because apparently you're only supposed to say that to the groom; you say "best wishes" to the bride... barf...) and she made a big deal about it when she first found out I was keeping my name and wanted me to explain my reasoning in detail. Anyway, so the Christmas card was addressed to "Myfirst and HisFirst HisLast." So instead of "Susie Jones and Richard Smith" (or even just Susie & Richard, a lot of people use that), she wrote "Susie and Richard Smith." Which is a clear implication that my name is Susie Smith. Man I was so pissed about that! We weren't even married yet! There was NO excuse for writing it that way. Ugh I'm clearly still bitter about it, haha.
Anyway, keeping your name after marriage is definitely not the most common choice so I know I have to deal with the crap and probably will always have to, but on the other hand, it's freakin 2016! At the very least, just ASK instead of assuming.