It seems to be a general rule that the answer to any question that starts with "is it rude if I...?" is YES, but I'm going to ask anyway because I'm not sure.
Is it rude if I include food at the reception that I know a guest is allergic to, if it's just one of many options?
To use a specific example, my BIL is allergic to apples. He doesn't have any contact or airborne allergies to it, but gets itchy if he eats them.
If I include the Brulee apple bruschetta with fig, brie and balsamic reduction (because it's amazing) as one of the appetizers is that super rude? There will be 5 other apps as well.
We have several guests with "minor" allergies to things...apples, bananas, and almonds. Just wondering if I need to avoid them entirely.
One of FH's coworkers is allergic to peanuts (contact, airborne, anaphylactic) so we're avoiding peanuts entirely.