Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend and I recently ended a wonderful relationship after a year and a half. We love each other, and the breakup has been devastating and tormenting to both of us. I want kids; the issue is a deal-breaker for me. The older I get the more worried I get about having them. My ex said he wanted to have kids at the beginning of our relationship, but this year he started feeling unsure about wanting kids. He says he doesn’t feel excited about it and has no longing for it. I think this is less about children and more of a fear of commitment. He doesn’t have a stable job right now and makes a lot less than I do, which may have him worried about supporting a family. I am not ready to give up on this relationship. Recently we have both individually started counseling, which I think is huge for him. But my question is, how much time do I give him to sort out his feelings? I want to give him some time, but I also can’t wait forever.