I asked my first cousin to be a bridesmaid over a year before my wedding. I am having a destination wedding in Florida. We are getting married on a Thursday and she is mad about taking time off of work. I understand that my wedding isn't as important to others as it is to me. But I asked her a year in advance and she said yes. Knowing that the wedding was in Florida on a Thursday. She has also complained about the cost. I asked her over a year before so that she could save. My bridesmaids will be responsible for their travel expenses and bridesmaids dress. I would like their presence at the rehearsal dinner and the ceremony but that's it. I'm not having an engagement party/bridal shower/etc.
Now, my wedding is 6mo away. A few months ago her and her sister have had a falling out. My cousin and her sister don't get along. She told me that if her sister comes she is NOT coming to my wedding. I invited both of them because they are my family. I love them both. I was really frustrated and felt like she gave me an ultimatum. She also said she is going to try to catch an early morning flight the day of my wedding to make the 5:30pm ceremony.
Last night I only slept 2 hours because I am so stressed that I need to "choose" between family. I also don't want to be stressed out the day of my wedding wondering if my bridesmaid is going to catch her flight or not. Is it wrong that I am considering asking my cousin to step down as a bridesmaid? I mean she might not come anyways.....