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Should the grooms name be on the bridal shower invitations?

Knottie1437962917Knottie1437962917 member
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I read that his name should only be on it if it is a co-ed shower so we left it off when we ordered the invitations.  However when they came in my mom and sister (who are throwing the shower) seen them and they said it is rude to my fiancé's family to not include his name on the invitations.  I definitely don' want to to rub anyone the wrong way but it isn't a co-ed shower either.  Should we reorder them?? Thoughts?? 

I appreciate the help.
Thanks!
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Re: Should the grooms name be on the bridal shower invitations?

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    spockforprezspockforprez member
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    I've never seen the groom's name unless it's co-ed. Having him listed, for example, as "You are invited to a shower in honor of Knottie & Knottie FH," implies he is a guest of honor and will be present at the shower to receive the guests and gifts. 

    Short story, if he won't be at the shower, no, I don't think he should be on the invite. I don't know where your mom & sister got that!

    Sidenote: did you order the invites for your own shower? I would think if your mom & sister were throwing it, they'd order and mail those and would have selected the wording they preferred as hosts. (I'm kinda glad they didn't in this case as I don't think he should be listed, but just saying it's odd you ordered them.)
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    laurad75laurad75 member
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    I agree if his name is on the invitation it indicates that he will be there.  If its a bridal shower then its in honor of the bride.  
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    Knottie1437962917Knottie1437962917 member
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    I ordered them only because I wanted to pick them out myself to go with my theme.  This was super helpful though, thank you!!!
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    ernursejernursej member
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    Knottie1437962917 said:
    I ordered them only because I wanted to pick them out myself to go with my theme.  This was super helpful though, thank you!!!

    Agree with PPs. @Knottie1437962917, it is considered rude to be part of the planning process for your own shower. I would encourage you to step aside and let the hosts do everything else. Just enjoy being the bride and showing up.
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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    The groom's name is not included in a bridal shower for the bride.

    Some people do question a shower being given for you by your mother and sister, though.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If it's a coed shower, yes. If it's strictly for the bride, and he won't be there, no.
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