So my mother had a problem with recognizing boundaries and when we planned the wedding last year I got a lot of practice in telling her, nicely, politely that she needed to respect them. I need a little advice on how to handle a new problem with this.
H and I are moving roughly 500 miles in 3-4 weeks. We're also both professors and the end of the semester is the busiest time of year, and H is taking classes and his last exams are this weekend. Earlier this week my mother asked if she could come visit (she lives in NY were in NC) because she had to go to FL. She has to be there the day we close on our new house 5 states away. I told her it was a busy time, I had to talk with H, and not to book anything until I did.
She he texts me last night with the confirmation numbers of her hotel stay, in the closest city to us for 4 days, right before were supposed to close. H wants to tell her were not going to see her because we're too busy packing up, saying goodbye to our friends, finishing things here. I'm pissed that she did this, but I also feel like I can't ignore her if she's here. Any thoughts on the best way to approach this?