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Friend didnt invite me to ladies night
Knottie1461111618
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I am so upset, this girl from my church who I thought was my friend had a ladies night get together and posted pictures on FB, and when I asked what it was for and if it was dress shopping she said "No. We were hanging out. And you dont need to be at every social thing I do, ok? Im sorry, but no." What the heck? She hasnt ever invited me to a single social thing shes done, ever. And then I said well sorry for asking I just felt excluded. She said theres no reason you should have felt excluded. But isnt that what you just did? And then to follow it up with an exclusive remark of I dont need to be at every social event you do. Wth? This is the conversation:
Hi I saw the instagram post with you and three of the girls from our small group, if you don't mind me asking what was that for, were you dress shopping?
Caitlin. No. We were hanging out. You do not have to be at every social thing that I do. Okay? I'm sorry but no.
Im sorry, I never said I did, I was just asking
Why did you feel the need to ask?
Caitlin Heather
It just looked fun and I felt excluded, sorry
There is no reason you should have felt excluded Caitlin. And just because I don't call you up and invite you does t mean that you're not wanted or something. And these are some of my good friends. I don't know how many times I need to explain that to you girl. It makes me NOT want to invite you to things when you get like that. I'm sorry I'm being blunt here but I literally have tried being nice and including you in things and you actually are doing this even more than before. You're gonna have to take time and seek God on your own in this to get healing because nobody else is in charge of you and your heart healing except for you.
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When I get to feeling like Im excluded? Im acting like I feel excluded even more than before? I didn't really realize I was doing it more than before, I do appreciate you being nice and including me on things and Im sorry I have acted like I feel excluded or rejected and Im sorry it has made you feel this way. I will try to work on it more and seek God about it to get heart healing.
I'm glad you will seek healing. I'm sorry I am being so blunt, I know it is hard to hear. But I don't feel like there is anything else I can do for you here Caitlin. It really is up to you.
Are we good? I just want to know that Im your friend
Caitlin, you will always be my friend. I still feel very frustrated about this all, and I'm sad that you have gotten to the point of feeling rejection all the time. The enemy TOTALLY hates you...that's just a fact for all of us...and you've gotta fight girl! Focus on how good God is and how much HE loves you and wants to give you confidence. I, and nobody else, can do that for you. It's up to you girl.
You feel frustrated about me feeling rejection/exclusion all the time? Im sorry like I said I will try not to
You feel frustrated about me feeling exclusion all the time? Im sorry Ive made you feel this way
I just want to see you healed Caitlin. Please seek God in this. I can't do it for you. And I'm not frustrated at you...I'm frustrated at the enemy at this point. I want to see you set free from this. You've gotta see that you feeling "not wanted" is actually just a lie from the devil and you are literally believing lies from Saran. You've got to start declaring truth!
Ok, thanks, and I will!
Good. Alright, I'll talk to you later girl. Have a good day!
You too!
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Re: Friend didnt invite me to ladies night
Honestly, from that convo you both sound mad as a box of frogs. It takes s crazy level of manipulation to blame feeling left out on 'the Devil' and telling you to 'seek God'.
This sounds like aged 14 drama.
People set boundaries with you and you cross them repeatedly, which is why you aren't invited places. Please speak to a professional about your behavior and stop posting on TK.
db1984 said:
It could be witches
Some evil witches
Which is ridiculous cuz Wicca good and love the earth and women power and I'll be over here.
But like @kimmiinthemitten said above, it's a vicious cycle that she perpetuates herself. She destroys boundaries so people don't ask her to do things and then those slights feed into her complex which makes her even less respectful of boundaries (like, say, posting in random communities you are not a member of or accosting someone over an Instagram photo about why you weren't invited).
@Ourwildkingdom, google 'not invited to friends wedding in park'. It's either top shelf nuts or a work of art.
OP - please seek professional counseling.
OP- I would suggest you to reach out to a professional who can give you tools to understand boundaries as well as process your feelings of being left out.