Etiquette rules that aren't my preference

glasgowtolondon

Knottie1460327909 said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Sorry that my family's religious beliefs get in the way of your alcoholism

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I'd worry less about @crowsgirl15 non existent alchoholism and more about the fact that you are treating your guests poorly. No one gives a crap if you have dry wedding, everyone cares if you have a gap. 

artbyallie

CMGragain said:

Knottie1460327909 , There is nothing wrong with alcohol free weddings.  Many people do this.

Gaps are still rude.  If you need more than an hour to take your pictures, then you are taking too many damn pictures.

Exactly. There are only so many different pictures you can take of a wedding party anyway.

cupcait927

Knottie1460327909 said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Sorry that my family's religious beliefs get in the way of your alcoholism

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Alcoholism is a serious disease, not something you joke about simply because some posters expressed that they like to have a drink or two at a wedding. The vast majority of us here would survive just fine at a dry wedding, even though it's not our preference. 

OurWildKingdom

Knottie1460327909 said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Sorry that my family's religious beliefs get in the way of your alcoholism

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

That was so many levels of rude. 

InLoveInQueens

Knottie1460327909 said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Sorry that my family's religious beliefs get in the way of your alcoholism

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Aren't you just a nasty little peach.

crowsgirl15

lyndausvi said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Did someone say dry weddings are rude?   I thought we all agreed it's not rude at all.        Although, like the OP I would prefer cash over dry.  Of course, I will bitch about the cash bar, but I would like to drown my sorrows with a drink just the same

Sorry, I was definitely responding to the gap!! Dry weddings aren't rude in the slightest. I just went to one last week and it was lovely!

crowsgirl15

Knottie1460327909 said:

crowsgirl15 said:

Knottie1460327909 said:

I don't think dry weddings are rude at all.  If you are only coming to my wedding for the alcohol, I really should have thought through the guest list better.  We will be having a dry wedding because a) we can't have alcohol at our wedding and b) my grandparents are super conservative and I'd rather have them feel comfortable.  I also think that bringing a flask is rude, because to second a lot of other people, it could be dry because of a liquor licensing issue or for religious purposes. Unless you know for sure it is just because the couple is cutting costs, don't bring a flask.

I don't think gaps are rude.  Obviously don't have like a 5 hour gap, but I don't think it is unreasonable to have a couple of hours in between the ceremony and reception to allow for photos.  The guests know as soon as they receive their invitation if their is a gap and if they don't want to dedicate that much time, they are more than welcome to decline.  Receiving a wedding invitation isn't jury duty, you have the choice of whether you want to go or not.  I do like however, if there is going to be a gap, that the bride & groom provide activities and suggestions for what to do during the gap.  We are going to have yard games and light refreshments at our venue, and we've also included directions to local attractions and shopping centers. 

I feel like this post turns "etiquette rules that aren't my preference" into "ways I'm being rude to my guests, so it's totally ok if you do too!"

Sorry that my family's religious beliefs get in the way of your alcoholism

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I was talking about your gap. Not the dry wedding. I get it, you're backing up the part of your post that people support and ignoring the second part that no one does. But your gap is rude. You doing it doesn't make it less rude. That was my point