Baby Fever

SP29

I work in a hospital. Today I was treating a patient who had many photos of her grandchildren posted on the wall. One photo was an adorable little boy, probably around 3, dressed in pants, vest and bow-tie. ADORABLE! That made my ovaries cry.

Then in my Pinterest feed, one of my friends (who is TTC) pinned something about labour and delivery, and the picture that is pinned is a baby's head crowning. Ahhh! The thought of a small human being coming out of my Vjay-jay is terrifying to me. 

PaperTigersx

tigerlily6 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

Days like today really give me baby fever .... I just pray we can adopt

Keeping you in my prayers, Guac! It sounds like you make a big impact already on a lot of kids lives, and I'm positive you will your own someday, one way or another!

And @PaperTigersx, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers also! I have several close friends who have adopted, and I know the process can take a while. But it is so heartwarming to see both the parents and the child so loved by one another. Best of luck; and enjoy being a kitty-momma for now!

Thank you! Sometimes it can be frustrating knowing we can't have children. But I'm thankfull we've been given open hearts to someday love a child who wasn't able to be with their biological family-whatever the reason

PaperTigersx

Jen4948 said:

Sometimes I have it...it makes me sad because I don't think I can physically conceive and give birth so any child I have wouldn't be my own biological child.

This can be tough to swallow. I never really wanted to give birth to be honest. I was adopted as an infant and raised by my adoptive family. I never thought I would want a biological child until I found my FI. Now it's hard at times to know he can't have children. 

Have you looked into adoption?

my bio mother had to give me up due to financial reasons- I was born in South America. I have no hard feelings against her and honestly thank her and love her for giving me a better chance at life. 
Im sure there is a child out there for you who would appreciate you and love you for taking them on. I love my parents like they're my bio parents and they say they feel like I'm their own as well. 

Hoping the best for you 

scrunchythief

scribe95 said:

I don't understand baby fever myself (maybe I'm missing an ovary or something:) but I am an aunt to a ton of babies. The only I would say after reading OP is that you will never be "ready" enough for a baby. I find that couples wait and wait until the timing and finances and house etc are perfect but life will always pop up. Don't put it off if it's something you want. 

Lol, I AM missing an ovary and get bad baby fever.  I can't imagine what it'd be like now if I still had two...

flantastic

DD is 8 months and I have baby fever. I also think part of it is I just really like DH.

lnixon8

flantastic said:

DD is 8 months and I have baby fever. I also think part of it is I just really like DH.

This is really sweet.

InLoveInQueens

flantastic said:

DD is 8 months and I have baby fever. I also think part of it is I just really like DH.

I was always on the fence about kids, leaning more towards no. Then I met my husband and I really want a baby with him. It's kind of gross how fast the switch flipped. I need to find babies to hang out with to push off how desperately I want to go to babytown, population me and my husband. 

Jen4948

PaperTigersx said:

Jen4948 said:

Sometimes I have it...it makes me sad because I don't think I can physically conceive and give birth so any child I have wouldn't be my own biological child.

This can be tough to swallow. I never really wanted to give birth to be honest. I was adopted as an infant and raised by my adoptive family. I never thought I would want a biological child until I found my FI. Now it's hard at times to know he can't have children. 

Have you looked into adoption?

my bio mother had to give me up due to financial reasons- I was born in South America. I have no hard feelings against her and honestly thank her and love her for giving me a better chance at life. 
Im sure there is a child out there for you who would appreciate you and love you for taking them on. I love my parents like they're my bio parents and they say they feel like I'm their own as well. 

Hoping the best for you 

Thanks. Right now having any children, biological or adopted, isn't a possibility, but I would be okay with adopting when it is.

banana468

lnixon8 said:

flantastic said:

DD is 8 months and I have baby fever. I also think part of it is I just really like DH.

This is really sweet.

That is really sweet.


I picked up my son on Mother's Day and he put his hands on my cheeks and gave me open mouth smooches.   Dude NEVER kisses me so it was the cutest thing ever to me.   

tigerlily6

scribe95 said:

I don't understand baby fever myself (maybe I'm missing an ovary or something:) but I am an aunt to a ton of babies. The only I would say after reading OP is that you will never be "ready" enough for a baby. I find that couples wait and wait until the timing and finances and house etc are perfect but life will always pop up. Don't put it off if it's something you want. 

I actually agree completely. We're hoping to wait a year to try so that by the time a baby comes around I will be graduated (or close to it) from law school, and FH has a job (currently none -- he just finished grad school). But I have also read blogs of women who had kids in the middle of their 3rd (final) year and felt like it was actually good timing, since in some ways the schedule of school is at more flexible than working a job. I'm not saying it's easy. But at the same time, if it happens, it happens. I wouldn't be the first person nor the last to juggle graduate courses and a baby.

emmaaa

Baby fever hit me and now i'm growing one.

DH and I had the plan to be married a year before we started TTC. Well, baby fever hit us super hard in August 2015 so we started a few months early. We ended up conceiving in January right after our 1 year anniversary, so it worked out.

We enjoyed our year of being married before now that we are preparing for a baby. I agree with Scribe though, you are never 100% ready. Even though we were trying, I still have OMG moments of doubt that I can do this.

Sadly, nothing helped curb my baby fever, haha.

FWIW, I still get kitten and puppy fever and we have 5 dogs and a cat. DH just keeps telling me, "We're getting a baby, you don't need a puppy."

charlotte989875

Congratulations @emmaaa!  Also, babies need puppies to play with. I love seeing pictures of babies and puppies growing up together.

emmaaa

@charlotte989875 I definitely want our children to have pets to grow up with. The dogs we have now are all over 4 and we don't have time for a new puppy. But they are all super friendly and will be great with a baby. It will be nice not to have to worry about training a dog/puppy while learning to be parents to the baby.

Once these pets have passed (hopefully many years from now) we will get another puppy. Depending on timing it could be great to help teach our kids about responsibilities.

thestaircase

We an odd couple here.. I don't have baby fever. But my husband have baby fever. He really really want a baby to complete our little family.
I have known him 5 years (got married 15 months ago).. The first 2 years we were 'just friends'. I didn't agree to be his GF until after 2 years of knowing him.

I know I agree to married him. I'm his wife, I can't keep him childless for the rest of his life, eventually we going to have a baby.. I can't take away his rights of want to be a father when he married and have a wife.
I'm 31. He 30, (for a man age 30 is not old at all).

I'm not even pregnant yet and he already kiss my stomach. No, he doesn't kiss it everyday but 2-3 times a week usually on weekend, lol
He said when I'm pregnant, he wants me to let him kiss my stomach EVERYDAY for 9 Months until the baby born.. He so corny right?
When he watching News; sometimes he lays his head on my lap, and he would kiss my chubby stomach. (I'm 4'11" short height, and chubby. Dunno why he likes to kiss my stomach when there no baby in there, lol). I giggles and tell him that there no baby in there yet.. But he said he wants to, and likes to kiss my stomach; baby there or not.

I reminded him that I'm very careful with take my BCP, and asked that he knows I'm not pregnant right? And asked why he likes to kiss my tummy when there no baby in there? I asked silly question like that, lol
He thinks I'm silly. He said he knows I'm not pregnant, but he still want to kiss my stomach; baby there or not.
And the way he kiss my tummy, it kindda odd too.. It not the peck type, but the slow kiss type--the he put his lips on your tummy and slow kiss it, lol (he corny).

When we got married on Feb 2015.. I did promise him that I will get off my BCP in 2016, and we TTC in 2016. But I'm still not ready, so I push it to 2017.
He very understanding. He said he understand that I'm not ready for a baby. He will not pressure me, and he will wait for me till I'm ready.. He believe that have a baby should  be a mutual decision where both spouses agree (without any pressure/without under any pressure whatsoever).

Right now it just the two of us and our little doddle.. I know he really want a baby want a baby to complete our little family. And I do want to give him his baby wish. It just that I'm not sure if I want to have a baby right right now.
But I'm 31 this year already. I should start thinking about it, I'm not young anymore.