Don't know how to resolve this issue with BMs
So my bachelorette was last weekend. Unfortunately one of my bridesmaid's grandmother passed away a few days before and she could no longer attend. We talked about getting together for dinner at some point before the wedding, possibly with the rest of the girls if they were free. When I asked them over the weekend, they all said yes. We were planning for this Friday.
BM who couldn't make the Bachelorette wants to go to dinner at a place that'd be approx $100 a person. The rest of us don't want to spend that much on dinner, especially after the costs of last weekend and I was recently laid off from work. I asked if we could go somewhere cheaper because I'm currently not working and she initially said yes and she would think of something. She messaged my Maid of honour asking her if she could help cover my portion so we could go to this restaurant still. My Moh doesn't want to go to a dinner that expensive partly because she had to cover the costs of this BM not attending the bachelorette, let alone cover my portion too. I intend to pay for myself and would pay for a $100 dinner if everyone wanted to go, but figured we could do something on a smaller scale since that isn't the case.
So BM messaged me saying its getting too complicated and asking if we could just have dinner with three of us (herself, myself and a mutual friend BM), cutting out my moh and another BM who also happens to be my roommate. She said she would cover my expenses for the dinner because we'd be going to this expensive restaurant still.
I don't want to uninvite half my bridal party. I don't want to cause drama. I don't want anyone to pay for me. I also have this BMs dress and need to get it to her asap, the wedding is 3 weekends from now.
I don't know what to do. I'm just looking for some advice.
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