So...it looks as though my FH and I have a couple options at this point:
-civil ceremony here, convalidation at his parents' church in NM a year later
-quick Catholic ceremony here, unity celebration a few days later (including bridesmaids, etc)
-Catholic ceremony, big honking reception here (except not on Sunday, and the specific date FH wants is a Sunday. That's one of only two requests he's had this far and the only reason I'm even considering the PPD.).
Logically I know it's a gross thing to do. Emotionally I want to make FH happy because it's his day too. Is it ever forgivable, and is it less gauche if guests know up front? That is, if it bothers etiquette gurus but guests aren't offended or disgusted does it matter as much?
I tend to be thin-skinned so I'm hoping y'all take it a little easy on me!