Hello, Knotties!
What do you think is the best RSVP system for guests to use on wedding websites? For some reason, despite all the weddings I've been to, I haven't personally seen any brides use Wedding Wire's search system-style RSVP and website. Has anyone used it? What problems have you encountered with it and other RSVP systems?
I'm not sure if the search system would be abused by guests - looking up who else is or isn't invited, for instance, or seeing who seems to have the privilege of a party member that they don't - but I would rather not be confused by guests filling in their names, and even worse with the Knot, not specifying which other members of the party or random guests are coming.

Which is the most preferable website RSVP system? 20 votes
Open guest fill-in RSVP system (ex. The Knot, Weebly)
Password-protected guest fill-in RSVP system
Search system for previously constructed guest list (ex. Wedding Wire)
Other website RSVP system
I wouldn't use a website RSVP system because it wouldn't suit my guests
I wouldn't use a website RSVP system due to personal inconvenience
I wouldn't use a website RSVP system for alternative reasons
Re: Which is the most preferable website RSVP system?
It feels like TK forum users just aren't into online RSVP systems yet?
To the bolded, that thought hadn't occurred to me but I can't imagine it would be too big of a concern unless you anticipate a lot of family drama or are not inviting family members whom others think you should.
But whatever, they're weird.
If implemented correctly, you would only be able to see events you weren't invited to if you put the wrong name into the system...Like, let's say you know Aunt Cathy is probably invited to the rehearsal dinner, but you weren't. So you'd put Aunt Cathy's name into the online RSVP system, and it'd tell you what events Aunt Cathy would be invited to. So...that'd be on you for being the weirdo.
There really should not be an obvious way for you to see events that you're not invited to, unless you're being a pinch malicious. Assuming, of course, that the RSVP system is set up correctly (like GloSite).
Personally, I plan to just use the RSVPs for ceremony and reception, which everyone is invited to, and do the rehearsal dinner through other means.
I suppose I'm just worried because both of my parents are divorced and remarried, and my mother also isn't necessarily following the "invite in circles" suggestion for which relatives she wants to invite. They're amicable, but I'm a cover-all-bases bride apparently. Which seems impossible.
So, ALL correspondence should really be done on ONE platform - electronically or snail mail. And if you're sending paper invites, as one normally does for a formal event such as a wedding, you really aught to collect any RSVPs via paper/snail mail.
@MCmeow In theory this sounds good, but in practice...people are going to misplace their access codes. This is why online registries let you search for a couple's name, and these other RSVP websites let guests search for their own names. Bits of paper always go missing...and people are lazy.
You can set up a separate gmail for free, put the address where ever, and people can email you. Then it's super simple to email them back if you have a question or to confirm you've received it. It's all in one place, searchable, free, with little risk of glitches.