A couple months ago I was “asked to step down” as a friend’s bridesmaid. (Sidenote: Why use that phrase? You mean I could decline? /sarcasm). We had already ordered and paid for the dresses at that point, but the bride said when mine came in she would reimburse me for the gown. Since she kicked me out, rather than me needing to withdraw, I intend to hold her to that.
My etiquette question, then, is this: do I offer her the dress back? I’m not aware of plans for a replacement BM. It’s a very nice dress that I would have worn again, but with all that’s gone on now I would just donate it to a homecoming/prom dress charity when they start up again. I don’t see the friendship as recoverable, sadly, so mostly I just want things wrapped up cleanly and courteously. Is offering the gown seen as vindictive? Or just the right thing to do since she’ll now be the one who’s paid for it?
Thanks for any advice you might have!