So I've got a dilemma that came up this past weekend.
Our wedding is July 9th at ABC Marina on XYZ Lake. Our and our friends' boats are docked down the hill from the event center, where the wedding is being held. Many of our friends have college-aged nieces and nephews (and their friends) who come and hang out on the docks during the summer. Since I'm not really close to these kids, I didn't invite them to the wedding, but after this past weekend they all know when its happening and where (friends were discussing it). They said they'll probably come out that weekend and just hang out at the docks and on the boats - no plans to crash the wedding - and that when the reception is over they'll join us for the afterparty on the docks.
Am I being rude for not inviting them up to the wedding? I don't expect them to not hang out at the lake cause I don't own the lake and its an awesome place to hang out. But I feel like I'm waving the wedding in their face and going "Neener neener you can't come" even though adding them would put me wayyyy over budget and make the space really cramped. If it was one or two, I'd go ahead and add them in with their aunts/uncles, but its more like 20 extra people.