Recently my daughter canceled her birthday dinner without explanation. We found out later it was because she institutionalized for depression and suicidal ideation, which she has openly battled for the past year. I finally talked to my daughter, and she said she was raped and asked that I not ask any questions about what happened. We discussed therapy and treatment options for her trauma and existing depression. When I told my partner, her first question was, “Did you ask her why she told everyone else and not you?” This started a huge fight that I’m not sure will end well, but I know I’m not in the right frame of mind to think rationally. Am I wrong in thinking my partner was insensitive, or is my partner right in that she’s looking out for me: “Why were you the last to know ... but the first to be asked to make it better?”
—Am I Angry With the Wrong Person?