We are finalizing the choices for our late evening reception - just hors d' ouevres (that information is included on the wedding website and has been passed by word of mouth).
Our definite choices are: (1) mini grilled pimiento cheese sandwiches with tomato soup, (2) shrimp and grits, (3) deviled eggs (bit strange, I know; this venue has great deviled eggs and everyone who has been to a wedding there previously was like "BUT ARE YOU HAVING THE DEVLIED EGGS???"), and (4) chili panisse with avocado relish.
There will also be a cheese "cake" because the groom's honor attendant runs a creamery, so four cheeses with accompaniments. (And a normal wedding cake; we're not monsters, however much we prefer savory to sweet ; ).)
Our numbers have come in such that we can add a fifth option. We had originally planned to add a crispy ox-rib, since otherwise we don't have any meat, and we wanted to make sure everyone felt properly hosted. Our other possible addition was fried green tomatoes - which we had planned to add as a sixth if numbers got that low, but I don't think they will.
But now I'm torn - we both love fried green tomatoes, and I like how well they fit with the rest of our pretty Southern menu. I like how seasonal they are, too - they feel very appropriate to our June wedding. I also found the rib a little messy to eat, though my fiancé didn't have the same trouble. And my family, who was a big part of my feeling that we needed a meat option, has largely declined - 26 to 31 are coming out of almost a hundred invitations.
(Either option costs the same - $4 per head plus 21% service charge and 10.5% tax at about 160-170 guests - so about $850 per additional option.)
What say ye? Will guests feel robbed if they don't have any meat? Will they even notice?
(Relevant, probably: we (FI and I)are not vegetarians or pescetarians. Many of our friends are, maybe as much as half, even, but so far as we know no one in either family is. Guest list of those attending or not yet RSVP'd is about a 60/40 friends/family split.)