I'd better be invited!

DrillSergeantCat

I made the mistake of posting a status on Facebook this past week about wedding planning. One friend said she hopes she's invited, another friend said she's crashing if she's not invited (she is), and an acquaintance said, "I better be invited!" The friend who said she hopes she's invited doesn't bother me at all, I feel like that was a tactful way for her to let us know that she wants to be part of our big day. The second friend, I know was joking because she already knew she was being invited. The acquaintance though...is not invited. I've only met her once in real life and we don't interact much online even. 

How would you handle this?

Ghostie625

Ignore it, and don't post anything else about your wedding on facebook.

STARMOON44

I'd delete their comments and your post and stop talking about your wedding on FB. 

levioosa

DrillSergeantCat said:

I made the mistake of posting a status on Facebook this past week about wedding planning. One friend said she hopes she's invited, another friend said she's crashing if she's not invited (she is), and an acquaintance said, "I better be invited!" The friend who said she hopes she's invited doesn't bother me at all, I feel like that was a tactful way for her to let us know that she wants to be part of our big day. The second friend, I know was joking because she already knew she was being invited. The acquaintance though...is not invited. I've only met her once in real life and we don't interact much online even. 

How would you handle this?

Move on, don't post a reply, and don't post anything else wedding related in the future.  It's also considered rude to constantly post wedding related things to people who will not be invited to the wedding (not saying you are, but just a warning for the future).  The same goes for discussing wedding related things with people who are not invited (i.e. at work, as an example).  It will make it much easier for everyone.  

Knottie1443721062

My FH's brother recently posted something about our wedding on facebook and tagged us, we got a couple of comments like this and just completely ignored them. They were FH's friends so he just untagged himself. 

DrillSergeantCat

Second part of this problem is that the first friend told the acquaintance that she'll sneak her in under her coat. I know she was joking, but I'm worried that it kind of gives the acquaintance an excuse. 

I totally learned my lesson about posting about the wedding. I just don't know if I should explain to her that with the cost of the food, I have to keep my guest list to close friends and family.

photokitty

You seem to have learned your lesson on positing about the wedding, so that good.

I'm guessing she is kidding. If you have only met her once and she is not kidding, unfriend her. If you are worried someone would legit sneak into your wedding, that's not a friend, it's a stalker.

levioosa

Also, I'm guessing there is at least a few months in between your wedding, and now?  I highly doubt someone is going to remember this post six months from now. If they do, that's creepy and weird. 

MairePoppy

DrillSergeantCat said:

Second part of this problem is that the first friend told the acquaintance that she'll sneak her in under her coat. I know she was joking, but I'm worried that it kind of gives the acquaintance an excuse. 

I totally learned my lesson about posting about the wedding. I just don't know if I should explain to her that with the cost of the food, I have to keep my guest list to close friends and family.

Nope. Just delete it from FB. If you run into them and they bring it up, tell them you can't invite everyone you'd like to. Then change the subject.

CMGragain

Never apologize about not inviting someone to your wedding.  They are rude to ask.

DrillSergeantCat

levioosa said:

Also, I'm guessing there is at least a few months in between your wedding, and now?  I highly doubt someone is going to remember this post six months from now. If they do, that's creepy and weird. 

That's true and I didn't even post details, just that I had ordered some wedding stuff. 

ceck-2

It seems like good-natured joking and harmless excitement on your behalf, but as other posters have said, keep it off Facebook from now on. Should you be asked about being invited in person, I would bean-dip.

CraftyG

I think they're just posting in a joking way so that you'll think about inviting them all, she's probably not expecting an invite as you're not that close but thought she would try her luck! I would stop responding on your status or just don't say anything specific and laugh it off and don't bring it up again.

I have an old school friend who tags me in pictures of bridesmaid dresses and jokes about it, I know it's just harmless and she would love to be asked but if she doesn't she'll be fine about it, but I never bring it up myself. 

kvruns

I'd just ignore it.

APDSS22

It sounds like they were probably joking. Just keep the wedding off Facebook and if it comes up again, just mention you couldn't invite everyone and let it drop. 

katsandtatts

I had this happen right after I got engaged, except it was face-to-face! One of my sister's friends heard about the engagement through my sister, naturally, and next time she saw me congratulated me and said "I'd better be invited!" I didn't know what to say so I just laughed awkwardly and changed the topic  

fyrchk

As PP's have said, definitely refrain from posting wedding stuff on FB. The downside to that is that other people will post on your wall or tag you in stuff. I deliberately did NOT post anything wedding related but once it got close to the day, people went nuts. I even had someone post my RSVP and tag me. I would remove the tags but if we had friends in common it didn't matter. I even told friends why I wasn't posting wedding stuff and they continued to tag me in stuff. Just stay vigilant and don't be afraid to delete. I DO think not posting saved me from a lot of grief.