To preface - I was MOH in my friend's wedding and it was just assumed that I would be making a speech at her wedding, which I did. I don't remember ever asking her to do this. As silly as it may sound to a lot of you, I was under the impression that was a "role" that the MOH undertakes; making a speech on behalf of the bride.
I had written a post about my issue(ssssss) with my FSIL/MOH (asked to be MOH prior to us having issues that have not been resolved), and was THRILLED and felt incredibly empowered when so many of you said that in no way, shape, or form is the MOH required to make a speech.
My question is two-fold:
a.) What do I do/how do I handle it if my FSIL/MOH expects that she is making a speech and never brings it up, but assumes. Do I broach the subject and say, "Sorry, I don't want you making a speech on my behalf" (in a more eloquent way), or is it normal for a MOH to ask the bride if they can make one?
b.) Have any of you NOT had a speech made on your behalf? FI is having his BM (his bro) make one, and potentially his best friend as well. I guess part of me is a bit self conscious if two people make speeches for him, and no one makes one for me (though I'm sure our guests would be thrilled!).
I know it's not a pissing contest, I'm just curious as to all of your experiences regarding speeches/who made them/what your expectation was involving them.