Wedding Invitation

Knottie1448131004

I'm not sure what I'm supposed to put for the "host line" on my wedding invitation. My father is remarried and my mother is widowed. My father is paying for around 60%, my FI and I are contributing around 30%, and my mother is around 10%. What do I do? I feel like my father would be offended if we put "Together with their families (or parents).. 

banana468

I'd do together with their families and tell your dad how appreciative you are that he doesn't see the need for an invitation that read like a playbill. 

PrettyGirlLost

Knottie1448131004 said:

I'm not sure what I'm supposed to put for the "host line" on my wedding invitation. My father is remarried and my mother is widowed. My father is paying for around 60%, my FI and I are contributing around 30%, and my mother is around 10%. What do I do? I feel like my father would be offended if we put "Together with their families (or parents).. 

I think you need to talk to your father about this, because technically it is "together with their families" since you are all contributing.

Honestly, getting butthurt over invitation wording seems pretty shallow and petty to me, but I get that there are adults out there that act that way, sadly

If your dad is going to be petty about the wording then I'd phrase the invitations such that there isn't a hosting line at all.  At the end of the day, your guests aren't going to care who is hosting. . . they just need to know where and when to show up.

SP29

Who is accepting the RSVPs? Who is directing any guest questions?

The person(s) who host the wedding are not necessarily the person(s) who fund the wedding.

The invitation isn't a who-is-who to create a family tree or to state who is paying for everything. It is to provide the who, what, when and where of the event. Hosts are listed so that guests know who to contact for their RSVP or should they have any questions.

There are a few ways to word this, and hopefully @CMGragain will jump in here.

While not traditional, "Together with their families" is very commonly used when there are multiple hosts and mixed family members (that is what we put on ours).

If you and your FI are the hosts, you do not need any mention of parents and can use:

"The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of...."

(Edited for incorrect wording).

CMGragain

Knottie1448131004 said:

I'm not sure what I'm supposed to put for the "host line" on my wedding invitation. My father is remarried and my mother is widowed. My father is paying for around 60%, my FI and I are contributing around 30%, and my mother is around 10%. What do I do? I feel like my father would be offended if we put "Together with their families (or parents).. 

Mrs. John Latestepfather

Mr. and Mrs. George Bridesfather

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Bride's Full Name

to

Mr. Groom's Full Name

Day, date

time o'clock

Venue

Address

City, State

ILoveBeachMusic

SP29 said:

Who is accepting the RSVPs? Who is directing any guest questions?

The person(s) who host the wedding are not necessarily the person(s) who fund the wedding.

The invitation isn't a who-is-who to create a family tree or to state who is paying for everything. It is to provide the who, what, when and where of the event. Hosts are listed so that guests know who to contact for their RSVP or should they have any questions.

There are a few ways to word this, and hopefully @CMGragain will jump in here.

While not traditional, "Together with their families" is very commonly used when there are multiple hosts and mixed family members (that is what we put on ours).

If you and your FI are the hosts, you do not need any mention of parents and can use:

"Knottie # and Knottie#FI request the pleasure of your company...." (there is a difference in wording depending on if you are having a church ceremony or not).

This (the bolded) not correct. If the B&G are hosting, it would just say "the pleasure of your company" or the "honor of your presence" is requested....


When the B&G are hosting the invitation is issued in the third person because the honorees of the wedding don't invite guests to honor them. 

Knottie1448131004

Thanks everyone. This puts my mind a little more at ease. I had no idea what to do!