Hey guys I need some advice.
About 8 months ago my fiance and I were choosing our wedding party and
knowing that my fiance didn’t have a lot of friends, he asked two guys to be his
groomsmen that we had meet through some other friends. They accepted even though
they are not that close to my fiance. Shortly after my fiance and I moved to a
new city about 100 miles away and I could see he was getting frustrated that
these guys weren’t making a large effort to keep up with him. One of the
groomsmen is also getting married around the same time we are and had his
bachelor party a couple of weeks ago, not inviting my fiance because he stated
that he only invited his own groomsmen, which my fiance is not. My fiance was
hurt by this and decided that he needed to kick the other groom to be and his
friend, the other groomsmen out of the wedding party because he felt like they
had drifted apart.
We have a shower coming up in about two weeks and we didn’t want anything
to be awkward so my fiance sent both guys a text stating that he felt there was
some tension and that he was going to go ahead and kick them out of the wedding
party and thanked them for originally saying yes. I also went ahead and sent a
text to the groomsmans fiancee saying I was uninviting her from my bachelorette
party and going to send her money back. I also told her I hoped there was no
hard feelings. We didn’t want anything to be awkward at any of our showers,
parties or the wedding itself so we went ahead and uninvited the two groomsmen
and the fiancee to all wedding events including the wedding itself. Did we do
the right thing?
I know people keep telling me its my wedding and we can do whatever we want
but I’m just not sure.