Crazy amount of missing RSVPs!

Kdaisy24

So our vendors need the final numbers for our wedding this summer in 2 weeks. We sent out invites for our reception early in anticipation of the crazy summer season and the F's and my participation in other weddings this summer. To date, we still have over 100 guests who haven't RSVP'd. We've reached out to many through social media and text and few have replied.

Any idea how to calculate the number that will probably show up so we can give our vendors an accurate estimate? 

TIA!!

geebee908

Kdaisy24 said:

So our vendors need the final numbers for our wedding this summer in 2 weeks. We sent out invites for our reception early in anticipation of the crazy summer season and the F's and my participation in other weddings this summer. To date, we still have over 100 guests who haven't RSVP'd. We've reached out to many through social media and text and few have replied.

Any idea how to calculate the number that will probably show up so we can give our vendors an accurate estimate? 

TIA!!

You need to get on the phone and actually talk to these people. That's the best way to get a timely answer.

ETA: Has your RSVP date already passed? If not, then you need to be a little more patient.

levioosa

Start calling people if your RSVP date has already passed.  If you still have time before the RSVP date, you need to wait.  Once the date has come and gone, pick up the phone and call people.  Leave messages.  "Hi John and Sally, this is Kdaisy.  We are submitting our final numbers to our caterer and need to know if you will be attending.  If we don't hear from you by X date, we will be sorry to miss you at the wedding."  

Out of curiosity, how many people did you invite?

MesmrEwe

If your RSVP date is coming up - you can do an "event" reminder via FB to say "RSVP's due on Tuesday!" ...  Give yourself two days after the RSVP date for the PO to do their jobs, then PICK UP THE PHONE and call people!  No texting/emailing, just pick up the phone and CALL! 

Viczaesar

When is your wedding?  When is your RSVP date?  When did you send your invitations?

Jen4948

Kdaisy24 said:

So our vendors need the final numbers for our wedding this summer in 2 weeks. We sent out invites for our reception early in anticipation of the crazy summer season and the F's and my participation in other weddings this summer. To date, we still have over 100 guests who haven't RSVP'd. We've reached out to many through social media and text and few have replied.

Any idea how to calculate the number that will probably show up so we can give our vendors an accurate estimate? 

TIA!!

Yeah, it's annoying that your guests are jerking you around by not RSVPing. But you can't "estimate" whether anyone will come or not.  You have to contact them directly and pin them down. And I would stop using social media and texts to do this.  Pick up the phone and call them, and get an answer.

And let them know that "I don't know/we'll see/it depends" isn't an answer at this point and if they can't tell you a definite yes, then you'll have to assume they're not coming.

ILoveBeachMusic

Jen4948 said:

Kdaisy24 said:

So our vendors need the final numbers for our wedding this summer in 2 weeks. We sent out invites for our reception early in anticipation of the crazy summer season and the F's and my participation in other weddings this summer. To date, we still have over 100 guests who haven't RSVP'd. We've reached out to many through social media and text and few have replied.

Any idea how to calculate the number that will probably show up so we can give our vendors an accurate estimate? 

TIA!!

Yeah, it's annoying that your guests are jerking you around by not RSVPing. But you can't "estimate" whether anyone will come or not.  You have to contact them directly and pin them down. And I would stop using social media and texts to do this.  Pick up the phone and call them, and get an answer.

And let them know that "I don't know/we'll see/it depends" isn't an answer at this point and if they can't tell you a definite yes, then you'll have to assume they're not coming.

True you do need to call them but only if your RSVP deadline has passed. I'm guessing it hasn't since your have two more weeks before  final counts are needed. For DD's wedding we received a ton of cards that last week before the deadline. Try to be patient (difficult I know).

Subwayloves

We made the mistake of making our RSVP deadline 3 days before our final numbers were due to the venue. We invited 175, and at the deadline date, we were missing about 50 responses. The day after the deadline, I texted or Facebook messaged everyone I could that I hadn't gotten a response from. Almost everyone responded, and I ended up having to make about 10 phone calls the next day (I did get lucky that everyone either answered the text or answered the phone- didn't have to leave any voicemails and wait for calls back). It was a pain and annoying, and I wish I would've given myself a little more time to get ahold of these people, but I got it done and had my final numbers the day before they were due If your deadline has passed, start making those calls. If it hasn't start making those calls as soon as it does pass. Don't try to guess who will come, because odds are you'll either pay for people who don't come, or you won't have enough seats, food, etc. for everyone, and you don't want either of those.

MobKaz

Kdaisy24 said:

So our vendors need the final numbers for our wedding this summer in 2 weeks. We sent out invites for our reception early in anticipation of the crazy summer season and the F's and my participation in other weddings this summer. To date, we still have over 100 guests who haven't RSVP'd. We've reached out to many through social media and text and few have replied.

Any idea how to calculate the number that will probably show up so we can give our vendors an accurate estimate? 

TIA!!

@Kdaisy24, how early did you send out these invitations?  A frequent warning to brides is to never send invitations out too early as they are often misplaced or forgotten.  I am also confused.  Are these invitations to your destination wedding or to your "large reception after your destination wedding this summer". Your original post speaks to both events, and you have made it clear in prior posts that you are having two separate events. 

Are the guests invited to this reception aware that your wedding has taken place already (if it has)?

lnixon8

Do not do what I did and rely on people other than you and your FI to make these calls. I love MIL ( this is the only thing shes ever done that annoyed me in 6 years) but when 12 of her family members I had never met HAD to be invited and then didn't rsvp she said she would talk to them. Less than 24 hours later she says they all are coming...and then none showed. I was so annoyed I wasted so much $.