Thank You Cards

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SP29 said:

Jen4948 said:

goin2vegas said:

I'd honestly rather receive that than nothing at all. I went to a shower, wedding and eventually sent a gift to her baby shower (I wasn't able to attend) and gave gifts at all of them (yes, I know, fool me once, blah blah blah....) and never received a thank you for any of them! This was all the same girl.

The shower I brushed off because she thanked me personally, so fine, I'm "okay" without a thank you card (not really....) but I never even heard one damned word about the wedding or baby shower gift. Drives me insane! One of these days I'm going to ask her if she even received the wedding or baby shower gifts. When she says yes, then I'll do the "oh, I was hoping you did but I never heard so I was worried". I would have been fine with a generic, I'm too lazy to do thank you cards but here's a thank you card, thing. At least it's something! It's not great, okay it sucks but at least it would be something. *End of rant* 

By accepting this rather than nothing at all, you're sending the message that it's okay for gift recipients to brush you off with a piece of trash instead of true thank-you notes. 

It's not better to send a pre-printed card than nothing at all. Both are equally rude because they're dismissive of the time, money, and energy the giver took out of their lives to get the recipient a gift that they were not entitled to.

But what is the solution here? Send the pre-printed TY note back and tell the sender it's not acceptable?

Imo the only thing you can do is lead by example and discuss it as an absolute not in the context of what the offenders did.   It's also rude to call someone out too.