Please tell me if I am being unreasonable or if I need to just take a chill pill here.
We sent out our invites a few weeks ago, and invited about 160 people (including +1s for single guests). As our responses are coming in, we're getting lots of 'yes' responses from family, but almost all declines from our friends (other than bridal party members).
Right now, I'm not even sure if we'll be meeting our venue minimum of 100 guests.
I know this is supposed to be a happy time, but this is all leading me to question a lot of my friendships, and whether we are as close with people as I thought we were. Many of the declines are from out-of-state, but I also get a little sad, because we've attended dozens of out-of-state weddings for these same friends over the last few years. I know it is not apples-to-apples, and that it gets harder to travel as people get older and have their own families, but I can't help but feel a little sad that we really won't have any "groups of friends" at our wedding and that our guest list pretty much entirely consists of family.
(For what it's worth, I love our families and feel so blessed at how excited, involved, etc. they all have been - so maybe I need to not let this bother me, and just focus on the fact that we have families that are so supportive?)
Is it weird that this is upsetting me so much? I keep second-guessing myself (i.e. wishing we had sent Save the Dates earlier - we sent in Jan for an Aug wedding), and just feeling a little hurt that almost no friends are willing to travel for our wedding, even folks who are always traveling for other reasons.
We've been pretty low-key about most aspects of wedding planning, but this has been bothering me more than I'd like.