Hey all,
We are 5 weeks out from the wedding! (yay!) Everything is coming together and I'm pretty excited about everything except one family issue that is making me a little nervous.
My grandpa and his wife (not my grandma) were invited to the wedding. He lives in assisted living, he's got Alzheimer's and hasn't known who I am for a couple years now (but weirdly knows FI, probably not who he is, but always his name). Grandpa's wife RSVPed 'No' for both of them (there is some drama between wife and my mom and her sisters related to how wife has dealt with Grandpas illness, she probably felt awkward about attending), I figured it was probably for the best as travel and being outside are difficult for him and lots of people around would be very confusing.
One of my Aunts decides that she thinks it would be really meaningful to my Grandpa to be able to attend and wants to hire an aid to bring him to the wedding and assist him. She'd only have him stay for the ceremony and cocktail hour. My mom thinks it's a bad idea and after talking about it with her, I agree. She and my Aunt took my grandpa out for Father's day last weekend and the warm weather made him lightheaded and he was confused and upset because his memory was particularly bad that day. Mom is worried that would be the case at the wedding too, is concerned that even if an aid is there to help grandpa that she'll be worrying about him the whole time rather than enjoying her daughter get married, and god forbid there were some medical emergency, the venue is VERY rural. Now mom and my aunt are fighting about it. I agree with my mom, but since he was invited I can't really rescind his invitation, right? What should I do?