I am currently planning my June 2017 wedding. My fiance and I are paying for mostly everything with some help from our parents. However, my mother is trying to take over my wedding. She is constantly inviting random people from her workplace that I have never met. My fiance is getting upset with this because each guest adds more money onto our wedding bill. I asked my mother if she was going to help pay for these guests and she pretty much laughed at me. Her contribution towards our wedding has been about $500 and while I'm grateful for what she's given us, I feel that it doesn't give her the right to invite ten of her friends from work.
My mother is also very opinionated. She doesn't like the wedding dress I picked out, she doesn't like the bridesmaids' dresses I picked out, she doesn't like that I'm having the wedding, shower, and other events near where my fiance and I live (which is only about 20 minutes away from her), and she constantly insults our friends and my bridesmaids. She told me that my fiance is only inviting "drunks from a bar room" because he is inviting two or three guys from the firehouse he goes to on Sundays. She told my bridesmaids they were stupid because they are letting me have the final say on the bridesmaid dresses. We all talked about the dresses and agreed I would have the final say but I wouldn't pick something that looks horrible on them. We all agreed on the dress I picked out. I picked a shorter bridesmaid dress (it goes to about the knee) and my mother said none of my bridesmaids have nice enough legs to wear it. Then she said only two of my bridesmaids are skinny enough to wear the dress. I am getting so tired of my mother's insults and other nonsense. She acts like she is paying for the whole wedding when in reality, my father (who is no longer with my mother) is giving us a lot more money. Of course, she also badmouths him so it's just adding more stress to my life. My father is very supportive and is not trying to dictate things just because he's giving us thousands of dollars. He pretty much says "it's your wedding" and just goes with the flow.
My mother is very stubborn, loud, and outspoken, so any attempts to have a discussion with her about this have not gone well. Last time I tried to talk to her, she said she was going to make me cry and then laugh at me. I'm sorry for the length of this but I don't know how to deal with her anymore and am hoping I can get some advice on dealing with an overbearing and basically mean mother during wedding planning.