This one was new to me...

aurianna

Went to a wedding. Overall, perfectly nice.
Now, the bridesmaids were all in cowboy boots that they may or may not have been forced to purchase. And when there was a head table minus dates. But other than that, things seemed perfectly kosher... at first.

Firstly: Has anyone been to a wedding where the couple was so late coming back from pictures that the venue decided to just serve dinner without them? I have!
Kinda weird. No one was starving; the wedding was early. But it had been sitting in the chafing dishes since before we got there so that might have been some of the incentive.

But the thing that just made me cringe:
Once the couple finally arrived, people started doing that thing where they'd clink the glass to make them kiss. The MC interrupted that and said something along the lines of "The happy couple wants to kiss for you, but instead of clinking the glasses, go make a donation in the honeymoon jar to ring the cow bell!"
So we were to pay them to kiss... which they'd do in response to a cow bell. C is for cow, K is for klassy.

ILoveBeachMusic

How odd to serve dinner without the bride and groom present. Sounds like poor planning. The honeymoon jar kissing -just ewwwww!

monkeysip

Could you pay extra to make them perform sex acts?  

Jen4948

That's weird to serve dinner in the absence of the couple.

So how much did they raise for their charity? And how long did they have to kiss to do it?

madamerwin

Jen4948 said:

That's weird to serve dinner in the absence of the couple.

So how much did they raise for their charity? And how long did they have to kiss to do it?

Charity? You mean their honeymoon fund?

NBSquared2017

I have never seen a honeymoon jar at a wedding, let alone a cowbell! 

madamerwin

NBSquared2017 said:

I have never seen a honeymoon jar at a wedding, let alone a cowbell! 

MORE COWBELL!

Jen4948

madamerwin said:

Jen4948 said:

That's weird to serve dinner in the absence of the couple.

So how much did they raise for their charity? And how long did they have to kiss to do it?

Charity? You mean their honeymoon fund?

Yup...their own *personal* charity.

MesmrEwe

Never seen the Honeymoon fund jar, but I have seen cow bells and other antics for getting the couple to kiss...  Our caterer forbid glass/plate clinking so had to come up with something else...

But definitely, more cow bell!  Though I have seen roping as the requirement but no cow bell..

kvruns

I think I've read stories like that on here about various things people had to do or make donations to make the couple kiss. So weird. Apparently no one at our wedding wanted us to kiss because there was no clinking crap or anything. Or maybe they just knew we would ignore it!

DrillSergeantCat

Someone in a local facebook wedding group had a honeymoon fund jar that she was selling. She didn't say what they did with it, but I'm pretty sure there was a cutesy poem to go along with it. 

photokitty

I've not been to a wedding where the main course was served without the couple, but if the contract says a time when dinner it's to be served, then I'd say it's on the couple to be on time. The venue could have holding temp issues with waiting, paying staff to stay longer, making sure the event concluded on time. Odd, yes - but I'd put it on the couple for putting photos before their guests.

SP29

I think it's weird to serve dinner without the Bride and Groom present. It's like sitting down to eat at someone's house and the hosts aren't sitting yet. Sounds like poor planning. I get the venue's side of it. Our venue had it stated in our contract that if dinner was delayed, we paid extra for every half hour to cover the inconvenience of the staff having to keep the food warm and serve it late.

I'm all for more cowbell (most venues will not allow the clinking of glasses- too many broken glasses), but paying into the HM fund is... eww!

DrillSergeantCat

I just want to know who all these people are who run around with all this cash in their pocket for this nonsense. 

lyndausvi

Couples who are late for their own dinner suck.    It's not easy to keep some 200 meals at the correct holding temperature.    That is often why wedding food gets a bad rap.    Had the dinner had started on time then the food would often not be all dried out or just generally blah.

And that is just the caterer side.   It's rude to the guests to make them wait too.

MCmeow

This reminds me of a dream I had last night. We attended a wedding where they first directed us to a line to give money for their "honeymoon charity". It was a long line coming out of the building and we basically couldn't enter unless we contributed. Everyone kept saying what a great idea it was while I was telling them it's screwed up. Eh I guess this situation isn't so far off  

Knottie1463423268

The only cash I could possibly think someone would need to attend a wedding would be to tip a valet. No cash bar, honeymoon fund, or dollar dance is every going to be classy! You wouldn't invite someone to a party in your home where they needed money, so why would you make your wedding such?

kahluakoala

I mean, I usually have around $50-$100 on me because I'm an adult and sometimes I need cash for things?

Still tacky, but it's not THAT weird to have a few dollars in your pocket.

ILoveBeachMusic

I hardly ever have more than a couple of dollars on me.

redoryx

I am going to a wedding this weekend and based on other things I've seen thus far I'm worried there is going to be a cash bar. Aside from the whole being tacky thing, I never carry cash and I'm not going to make a special trip to the ATM just for this.

DrillSergeantCat

I'm an adult and rarely have cash because 99.9% of the places I go, take cards. Silly me for thinking carrying cash = adulthood.

lyndausvi

DrillSergeantCat said:

I'm an adult and rarely have cash because 99.9% of the places I go, take cards. Silly me for thinking carrying cash = adulthood.

I carry limited cash because there are a few places around here that are cash only.    I don't think it makes me more or less adult.  Just reality of patronizing certain places.


ETA - oh and I also lived in the islands for a long time.  Power (and thus credit card machines) often went out, so cash was needed.  Plus there was a few cash only places.

 Hurricane season I always had a wade of cash just in case.  Hurricanes often equaled no access to credit cards or cash machines.     But again that was a product of my environment and not me being "adult"

thisismynickname2

lyndausvi said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

I'm an adult and rarely have cash because 99.9% of the places I go, take cards. Silly me for thinking carrying cash = adulthood.

I carry limited cash because there are a few places around here that are cash only.    I don't think it makes me more or less adult.  Just reality of patronizing certain places.


ETA - oh and I also lived in the islands for a long time.  Power (and thus credit card machines) often went out, so cash was needed.  Plus there was a few cash only places.

 Hurricane season I always had a wade of cash just in case.  Hurricanes often equaled no access to credit cards or cash machines.     But again that was a product of my environment and not me being "adult"

Yeah, I wouldn't have put money in the honeymoon jar either because a) tacky! and b) I hate carrying cash. More a product of my environment- as a city dweller, if I'm mugged, $50-$100 is a lot to lose. If only my cards are stolen, those are easily replaced with the money also easily replaced by our friends at Visa. 
Any time I find myself carrying a few dollars, those dollars end up buying chips in the office vending machine... sigh. 

kimmiinthemitten

I have $41.00 in my wallet right now which makes me feel like a baller since I never have cash.

AddieCake

Non-cash carrying adult here. I only get cash if I know I'm going someplace I will for sure need it. Beyond that, the only cash I have is whatever change is leftover from that reason. 

photokitty

kimmiinthemitten said:

I have $41.00 in my wallet right now which makes me feel like a baller since I never have cash.

I have $38, and $18 is ones...I feel like I am heading to the strip club instead of back from the cafeteria. Seriously, you have no fives or tens??

aurianna

Once I went to a wedding where there was a specific insert in the invite to bring cash because the venue didn't have an ATM. (free soda, house wine and beer but cash everything else, and dollar dance).
Yuck.

ILoveBeachMusic

aurianna said:

Once I went to a wedding where there was a specific insert in the invite to bring cash because the venue didn't have an ATM. (free soda, house wine and beer but cash everything else, and dollar dance).
Yuck.

Tacky!!

CharmedPam

Tacky yes, but I'd rather have that notice than being surprised with it... I'm a non cash carrier myself. 

madamerwin

kimmiinthemitten said:

I have $41.00 in my wallet right now which makes me feel like a baller since I never have cash.

I have $10 in my wallet. It's been in there for weeks, because I'm saving it for... Something? I like knowing it's there, since I rarely keep cash on hand.

aurianna

madamerwin said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

I have $41.00 in my wallet right now which makes me feel like a baller since I never have cash.

I have $10 in my wallet. It's been in there for weeks, because I'm saving it for... Something? I like knowing it's there, since I rarely keep cash on hand.

Heh... well that would have bought you exactly one drink at the wedding where they put the note in the invite. The cocktails were $9.