Should I change my wedding date?

bohobrideCA

I was getting a quote from a florist and she described my wedding date as "Mother's Day Weekend", I'm getting married on the Saturday before. I don't know how I missed this, I was watching out for holiday weekends and we asked about 20 close friends and family members if the date worked for them. Knowing myself I must have looked at this year's Mother's Day and felt like our date was in the clear.

Is this a big deal? Should I change my wedding date? I have my venue and I'm locking down vendors now. How could this impact my guests? We have our venue for the entire weekend so I could potentially host a Mother's Day brunch the next day for my out of town and local guests, although that might be insane. We have a couple out of the country guests but they don't celebrate US Mother's Day, one is FI's mom. 

DrillSergeantCat

This is one of those holidays where people don't usually go out of town, so if you've already started booking and your VIPs are okay with it, keep it.

TNDancer

My sister had her wedding mothers day weekend. I think you will be fine. The family actually loved it because everyone was together. It also sounds like you're looking at Saturday, so your other guests can still continue with their plans.

holyguacamole79

My college graduation was Mother's Day weekend and it was fine.  I've also been to a wedding on Father's Day weekend, so I'm inclined to say it's not a big deal.  But, you need to talk to your VIPs and make sure they are okay with it.

emmaaa

I agree with PPs, most people don't go out of town for Mothers' Day and since it is on Saturday, it shouldn't interfere too much with anyone's plans (and they can kind of schedule around them if needed since they will have notice).

Just consider, like Guac said, a lot of college's have graduation that weekend so if any of your VIPs are graduating or have kids who are, that could pose an issue.

bohobrideCA

Thank you all! This is what I thought but I didn't want to be presumptuous. VIP's know the date, my little sister is graduating that year and we made sure it wasn't that day so I'm trusting they did the same. I am so relieved. 

drid

May 13/17?  I had this realization a few weeks ago myself, although I didn't consider changing it. My Mom actually lives pretty much on the other side of the country from me, so I think it's a happy oversight and now I get to spend Mother's Day with her. It's not a long weekend so I don't think you're really cutting into anybody's time too too much. 

SP29

I think itqfine. As said, Mother's Day usually isn't a go out of town day. Guests can still celebrate your wedding on Sat and Mother's Day on Sunday.

Subwayloves

My wedding was Fathers Day weekend. I didn't even realize until a couple of weeks before. We had a pretty high attendance rate, and no one said a word about it being the same weekend. I also agree that some may even look at it as a positive- if my wedding hadn't been that weekend, my mom likely wouldn't have seen her out of town dad, and H's uncle lives across the country and his grandpa lives here, and they haven't been together on a Father's Day in years before this one. I actually think it was a plus for some people.

madamerwin

My wedding was Father's Day weekend, and when we checked with our VIPs, no one had a problem with it. If anything, our dads were happy, because they got to see us (a lot of guests' parents were also guests at our wedding, so it really worked out for many people).

I wouldn't worry about it - it's unlikely most adults travel to see their parents for Mother's Day/Father's Day anyway.

drglitter

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

OliveOilsMom

I think you are fine.  The reason your florist may have mentioned it is because your flowers may now cost more.  Mother's Day is one of the busiest weekends for florists, behind Valentine's Day.  So the demand for flowers might make the cost higher.  So I would potentially be prepared to limit some of the higher end flowers (calla lilies for example) to stay within your budget.

DrillSergeantCat

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

bohobrideCA

@drglitter @OliveOilsMom I thought they might be more too but I haven't noticed any extra charges and I'm asking for peonies. I can compare quotes though. My wedding planner has a whole sale license so I was planning on buying flowers with her for my centerpieces and other places but that may be harder now.

madamerwin

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

I had not heard of it either until I started working for a jeweler... It's a holiday kind of similar to Valentine's Day, to my understanding, and it's really only celebrated in the midwest and some parts of the northeast. Definitely not a well-known thing throughout the rest of the country/the world. Fun fact: Sweetest Day was actually invented by confectioners to sell candy.

bohobrideCA

madamerwin said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

I had not heard of it either until I started working for a jeweler... It's a holiday kind of similar to Valentine's Day, to my understanding, and it's really only celebrated in the midwest and some parts of the northeast. Definitely not a well-known thing throughout the rest of the country/the world. Fun fact: Sweetest Day was actually invented by confectioners to sell candy.

So exactly like Valentine's Day? 

drglitter

Yup, a made up Midwestern extra Valentine's Day. I couldn't even have told you when it was before I happened to be planning a wedding for that day (the third Saturday of October every year, in case you were wondering).

Sorry @bohobrideCA, didn't mean to derail your thread.

bohobrideCA

drglitter said:

Yup, a made up Midwestern extra Valentine's Day. I couldn't even have told you when it was before I happened to be planning a wedding for that day (the third Saturday of October every year, in case you were wondering).

Sorry @bohobrideCA, didn't mean to derail your thread.

Not even, I love learning new weird things like this. 

ILoveBeachMusic

madamerwin said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

I had not heard of it either until I started working for a jeweler... It's a holiday kind of similar to Valentine's Day, to my understanding, and it's really only celebrated in the midwest and some parts of the northeast. Definitely not a well-known thing throughout the rest of the country/the world. Fun fact: Sweetest Day was actually invented by confectioners to sell candy.

I live in the mid-west and have no idea when that day is. I'm sure it is just another Hallmark holiday.

madamerwin

ILoveBeachMusic said:

madamerwin said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

I had not heard of it either until I started working for a jeweler... It's a holiday kind of similar to Valentine's Day, to my understanding, and it's really only celebrated in the midwest and some parts of the northeast. Definitely not a well-known thing throughout the rest of the country/the world. Fun fact: Sweetest Day was actually invented by confectioners to sell candy.

I live in the mid-west and have no idea when that day is. I'm sure it is just another Hallmark holiday.

I guess "midwest" is a pretty big area. I know it's a thing in Ohio, but beyond that I know nothing about where it's celebrated.

ScottishSarah

I wouldn't do a Mothers BBQ the day after unless you are inviting all of your guest's mothers and children.  It could become a PITA for guests and you, eg, they want to attend the mom's bbq with their kids (who are invited) but you haven't invited their mom and granny, KWIM?

The date you have picked for your wedding is fine however.

redwoodoriginal

madamerwin said:

ILoveBeachMusic said:

madamerwin said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

I had not heard of it either until I started working for a jeweler... It's a holiday kind of similar to Valentine's Day, to my understanding, and it's really only celebrated in the midwest and some parts of the northeast. Definitely not a well-known thing throughout the rest of the country/the world. Fun fact: Sweetest Day was actually invented by confectioners to sell candy.

I live in the mid-west and have no idea when that day is. I'm sure it is just another Hallmark holiday.

I guess "midwest" is a pretty big area. I know it's a thing in Ohio, but beyond that I know nothing about where it's celebrated.

It's a thing in Michigan and Illinois as well. I grew up in NY and didn't know anything about it until I moved to Chicago and people are all like Sweetest Day! And I'm like da fuq?!

kimmiinthemitten

DrillSergeantCat said:

drglitter said:

As long as you don't have any florist problems, I wouldn't change it. If you're having trouble finding a florist, or getting insanely high quotes, because it's Mother's Day weekend, then maybe, if flowers are important to you.

We're getting married on Sweetest Day (coincidence). Right after we chose a date, I had someone tell me that they got married on Sweetest Day and couldn't find a florist willing to do their wedding. We didn't have a problem finding one though.

If you can find a florist, go for it. I don't think it'll impact your guests at all.

What's Sweetest Day?

Michigander here. As soon as I read your post @drglitter I thought, next up, questions

Sweetest day is garbage and I don't know anyone who celebrates it outside of high school. In my house it's usually something like this:

Oh, it's Sweetest day. (Continues doing what we're doing.)

I think Mothers Day weekend is fine. The actual day isn't until Sunday anyways. If you're having a challenge with florists, find a small one man shop that specializes in events (they're all over Facebook). They likely won't have at home deliveries etc like a floral shop will. 

SaintPaulGal

No need to change your date!  I highly doubt people are going to be bothered that it's the same weekend as Mothers' Day.  That's not really a holiday people tend to make a weekend of anyway.  If it was on Sunday that would be annoying, but the day before is just another Saturday.

Add me to the list of people who read "sweetest day" and were like ????????  I'm from the Midwest (MN), and I have literally never heard of this.  I guess you learn something new every day!

kahluakoala

1 more vote for "NBD!" And I'm usually pretty salty about holiday weekend weddings, I understand why people do them (especially Memorial Day and Labor Day) but they are REALLY not my fav. 

My Mom's birthday is always the same weekend as Mother's Day so we always have a bigger celebration and even for us it would be NBD. We would just push it to the previous or next weekend if the whole family wasn't invited and we wanted to spend it together. (like if I had a wedding for a friend or something). 

Enjoy your (hopefully) beautiful May weekend.

AddieCake

I lost my virginity on Sweetest Day. It was also our high school homecoming. 

I would never reconsider my wedding date because it was Mother's Day. I could be wrong, but I just don't see anyone thinking, "Oh! Can't make the wedding! Got brunch plans for Mother's Day!" 

cgss11

I wouldn't even think twice about a wedding on that weekend. No need for a special brunch. 

Growing up in Ohio, we definetly had Sweetest Day. In Arizona, it's unheard of. The first year DH and I were dating, he picked me up once all panicked. He had seen through FB that it was clearly Sweetest Day (because of friends in Ohio still), but he couldn't find a card at the store here for it. He bought me flowers and a gas station bag of m&ms lol. It's our running joke now so I still always get something but we fully agree it's a made up thing. 

CharmedPam

sweetest day = "have fun getting a seat at a restaurant" day.   Everyone goes out to eat too.  (edit:  it also always falls on a Saturday which doesn't help the restaurant scene either) 

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My wedding was July 10th of this year which is 6 days after the 4th of July obviously. I had zero problems with attendance and you shouldn't either. Honestly, a nice suggestion is go with fake flowers. They're cheaper and in some instances prettier plus you can reuse them. That's what guests at my wedding did. You will also free up some extra cash for something else in the wedding (a photo-booth perhaps or maybe some extra wedding day bling or a date night?!) 

bohobrideCA

MrsPeacock2016 said:

My wedding was July 10th of this year which is 6 days after the 4th of July obviously. I had zero problems with attendance and you shouldn't either. Honestly, a nice suggestion is go with fake flowers. They're cheaper and in some instances prettier plus you can reuse them. That's what guests at my wedding did. You will also free up some extra cash for something else in the wedding (a photo-booth perhaps or maybe some extra wedding day bling or a date night?!) 

I absolutely understand the flower thing, so expensive and unnecessary and I will always urge others to explore their options and look at cheaper alternatives or none at all. The thing for FI and I though, flowers have been a huge part of our relationship. He has a regular florist and he gets us flowers every other week. We both really love them and it's an expense we're more than willing to take. 

[Deleted User]

@bohobrideCA That's lovely! I'm sure everything will go accordingly then.