I just got off the phone with FMIL and have two invitation blunders.
1. FIs cousin has a girlfriend and they live on opposite coasts. The cousins mom said to make sure I knew that the outer envelope should be addressed to cousin and the inside envelope to cousin and girlfriend. I thought they both went on the outer?
2. FMIL is having my shower invitations made and wants the guest list so the creater can address the envelopes. Well, another cousin/GM is getting divorced and it's still a secret to everyone but us and his immediate family. Cousin actually just got his own place and we know his wife is not coming with him. I can't leave her off of the shower list because it will raise a flag to FMIL but I also know receiving an invitation will be hurtful to her (she doesn't want the divorce. We have time before the invitations go out but she's asking for the list now. What do I do?