Hello,
I had planned on having a small, intimate, wedding with family and a few close friends, out of state. As time has gone on, and with many of our friends having children the wedding has come to about 50 people.
My FH is paying for the entire wedding which will end up being a three day out-of-state vacation for our guests. We are already covering hotel costs, food for the three days, the wedding itself, a day of tubing down the river....so on, but now comes the rehearsal dinner question...
We have 34 guests in all who would make up the dinner and we already plan to pay for it, but we are weary of some guests being a bit greedy? That's not a good term to use but I dont know how else to put it?
We're doing a japanese steak house and while I believe some guests will be fine with getting the regular shrimp, chicken or steak options, we fear some guests will lean more towards the $50 meals, and then to add on drinks and appetizers, we dont want it to get insane...
Is there a nice way to suggest certain meal options? Is it in poor taste to pay for dinner but ask that each guest pay for their own alcohol?
Again, I know some guests will be respectful and I want everyone to enjoy their meal, but if I was at a 30 person dinner with someone else paying, I would'nt go crazy, where as, I've heard other people say its a great opportunity to get whatever you want on the menu...
Thanks in advance guys!