Not even sure what I am looking for other than an outlet to vent this
situation. If you have read my previous post (FMIL and FSIL Troubles!)
you know that FH and I have had some struggles with his family since we
got engaged. FH recently informed me his mother is upset that we are not
having a special brother/sister dance for him and FSIL at the reception and
many other issues.
All of this has amounted to FH telling me he
would rather elope than deal with his family's continued nagging
throughout the entire planning process (we have 14 months to go). We
have not shared any wedding plans with them since all of the insanity
began so I am hoping that will help. I am just not ready to elope and
skip celebrating our marriage with our other friends and family. We are so
excited to be marrying each other and the rest of our families are so supportive of
us!
We wanted a small wedding from the start, 100 persons or
less but FMIL and FSIL have been pushing for a larger wedding (as that
was what FSIL had for her wedding).
FH and I have agreed to stick with a
smaller wedding and we are both very happy with this decision! The ceremony
will be elegant and beautiful and the reception will be fun. We have
settled on ideas we both love and I am thrilled about that.
Unfortunately one of the decisions I am now faced with is cutting down my
BP. Initially I asked my sisters (there are 4) my best friend and FSIL
to be BMs. For a total of 6. FH has clearly stated he does not want to select 6 men to stand with him and I now
realize I jumped the gun in asking the BM's...
We have agreed
on having a Best Man, MOH and 2 BM and 2GM. Which means I now have to
talk with 3 of my BM's. The upside, no decisions have been made as we
are so far out from the wedding date. There are no dresses purchased
and no parties planned. FSIL has asked FH to remove her from the WP in
the past month so we will be honoring that request and I will be
removing 2 of my sisters (one of whom knows the situation and has
volunteered to step out.) I know removing the FSIL (even at her own
request) is inevitably going to bring it's own level of drama. But if I
am limited to 3 women standing beside me, I want it to be the ones I
love and know love and support me.
I have looked forward to marrying the man I love forever! I so want it to be simple, full of joy and peaceful! Is it supposed to be this hard?