Dear Prudence,
My brother has flunked out of two colleges and worked at a few menial jobs but is now a recluse. He still lives with my parents, who have been supporting him financially (student loans, car and health insurance, food). However, they’re not going to be able to keep supporting him in six months when he’s too old to stay on their health insurance plan. The complication is that he received a diagnosis of bipolar disorder a few years ago. He’s inconsistent about taking his meds, which throws him into downward spirals, and then he won’t do anything for days. I think the diagnosis is bunk, since I’d never seen him manic until his first month on medication, but regardless the issue is that he seems to be using the diagnosis as an excuse to avoid ... everything. Any ideas?
—Brother Failing to Launch