So for those of you who are married or getting married. Do you plan and do everything for your Bachelorette and shower? Cause if bridesmaids are expected to do nothing. ..who does it?
I am no longer friends with someone who I would've called my sister because of a wedding...its not that hard to destroy friendships this way.
This "friend" and I were close for about 5 years. She had been a BM in my wedding and when she got engaged I was happy for her. She asked me (her sister as a MOH) and another mutual friend to be her BM's. We all accepted and started planning. Then she asked if we all go dress shopping...where we picked out our dresses and then the bride found a dress she liked. It was off the rack and she couldn't afford it, so she corned my friend and I in the dressing room (I was half naked helping my friend zip up quick) and ASKED US for the money...AWKWARD!!! I had felt put on the spot and without thinking I agreed. I immediately regretted that decision and posted about it on here a while back. Thankfully she paid me back and so I shrugged and moved on.
A month later she plans a "get together". And then "surprises" us with cutting out her wedding invitations...I mean seriously???? I was game for going over after work and having some fun...not crafting your fucking invitations!!!!!!!! (Which she then sent out WAY too early!).
At this point I was already starting to feel a little strain. I distanced myself a bit and still included the friend in other non-wedding activities (all of which I had planned). I had at one point considered throwing her a bachelorette party but between everything that had happened, I decided against it. I already felt less close to the bride than before. (and there are a few things I am skipping for brevity)
Cherry on top?? The other BM and I were doing our hair and makeup in the room adjacent to where the Bride and MOH were getting ready. We are walking towards them (clearly and loudly there). Bride tells MOH that she would have only had her be there if she had known that Groom wasn't going to have had asked his other two friends to be GM...then does that fake laugh, turns to friend and I and says "Just kidding!"
OP, your attitude sounds similar to my ex-friend. It may not have all been intentional, but when you take each of those things and add them up it was enough to me end the relationship. It sucked, but in the end her wedding was a HUGE part of the decision. Don't do this to your BM. Just call her up and have a non-wedding conversation, apologize for coming off as demanding.
As for her not responded to your messages...that is rude too, and that doesn't make her the innocent one, but I think I can understand why she feels that way.