Hi Everyone! My cousin and his wife are having a convalidation ceremony this weekend so they can have their marriage blessed/recognized by the Catholic church. I'm super excited for them and can't wait to celebrate with them and the rest of our family.
I feel bad for asking this, but would you give a gift for this occasion? They've been married for 5 years, and this is not a PPD situation at all. They are doing this so that they can be more involved in the church and things like that. I didn't get them a gift when they first got married because they got married in a private ceremony with just their immediate families present, and I didn't send them anything. Normally giving a gift wouldn't really be a question, but my husband and I are on a single income right now so I can be a SAHM for our twins for the next year and a half, and we're already spending about $150 for a hotel room to go to the ceremony. I normally give cash for wedding gifts, but we wouldn't be able to give much, and I don't know what to get them if I got them a boxed gift, because they don't have a registry and they have been established for a really long time.
I'm just not sure what to do, and my mom kind of made me feel bad when I asked if I had to get them a gift. My husband and I didn't get married in the Catholic church, and if we did a convalidation I wouldn't expect anyone to give me any gifts, but anyone we'd invite to celebrate would have been at our wedding and had already given a gift, and I'd be mortified if they gave us another, but like I said they were married privately so it isn't the same thing. I know you technically never have to give a gift for a wedding but I'd like to hear what you would do in a similar situation. Thank you all very much!