I know this sounds a little nuts, but I'm so over my budget and I'm getting married at a beautiful, swanky beach boutique hotel in Montauk on 10.10.10. I happen to know that the couple that was going to get married the night before, 10.9.10 (Saturday, Columbus Day weekend) just pulled out so there's a spot open. Check out the site: SoleEast-dot-com
It's gorgeous and the location fee is only 5-grand...and it's waived if 30 of your guests book 2 nights. I'd love to find a bride who would be willing to split the costs of the tent/chairs/table rentals and possibly other vendors!
If you're interested in the site, contact them. If you want to know more about the place, feel free to contact me.
Thanks and happy reception site hunting!