Reception Ideas
Purpose of a Wedding Reception?
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Re: Purpose of a Wedding Reception?
This is definitely a learning experience for me. I know I'll be a little softer in my stance.
Here's the thing, not everyone wants to sit through an hour mass no matter how much they love you and if there is a gap between the ceremony and reception (not saying there is, just tossing out a scenario) I'm less inclined to go to the ceremony.
Be gracious. Say thank you, move on with your life. You are making things a bigger deal than anyone else has.
Oh please. You have been overly dramatic this whole thread. You posted. You got responses to your post. If you can't handle a tame thread like this, then maybe the internet isn't for you.
I love weddings, but I'm pretty ready to tap out after 20-30 minutes. I'm not religious, so loooooong church-y weddings aren't any more meaningful to me than a nice short-and-sweet 10 minute ceremony. So I get where he is coming from, although I would still attend to be supportive.
However, contrary to how some people behave, there is no law that says you must speak out loud every goddamn thing you are thinking. He could have just quietly not attended the service if he didn't want to go. You probably wouldn't have noticed his absence anyway. But to point out to you that he is just going to show up for the "fun" part makes him an immature jerk. I think you would have every right to be hurt. But you also can't rescind the invite without being an even bigger jerk yourself.
Not even going to touch the bizarre and out-of-the-blue thread drama.
This this this. Attend or don't attend for whatever reason you want. But being like, "well I'm not coming because I don't wannnnnnnnnnaaaaaaaaa" is what makes him a jerk.
That's how I feel as well. He can skip the ceremony for whatever reason (though I'd probably feel a bit sad if a friend wasn't there if I even noticed) but the fact that he had to whine about it makes him the rude one. He could have just come to the reception only and OP probably wouldn't have noticed, but he had to make it a big deal. Unless there was a gap I wouldn't personally skip the ceremony but if I did I'd keep it to myself and not make a big to-do about it.