Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend and I have dated for a year now and are now considering moving in together. He’s the sole tenant on the lease at his four-bedroom, rent-controlled place, where he’s lived for the last 10 years with a rotating cast of different roommates. As a result, the rent is unbelievably low. He recently told his current roommates that he wants them to leave so we could move in together. They complained, saying that they could not afford to rent elsewhere in the area at the current market rate. They’re artists and teachers, mostly, but they earn too much to qualify for housing assistance. My boyfriend said that either they could move out, or he’d cancel the month-to-month lease. Right now they’re at a standstill. When I mentioned the dilemma to my friend, she said it was “graceless” to try to kick out three people because my boyfriend and I wanted to start a new life together “on the cheap.” Who’s right here? We can definitely afford to rent at the market rate but he has lived here for 10 years now.