Dear Prudence,
I’m at a loss. From a reliable source, I found out that, while they were separated, one of my best friend’s husbands was seen kissing a man. Because they were formally separated for more than a year, I don’t really feel I would be compelled to tell her if he had been dating another woman, but I am wondering if it changes things that her (presumably straight) husband may be hiding a pretty big part of his identity from her (do people still experiment in their 50s?). I also feel that it’s wrong that I know (as do others of our group who were present when the reliable source told us what he had seen), and she does not. If it is relevant, they are both in their early 50s and have two school-age children and a pretty terrible marriage (according to her), but they seem to be trying to make it work. We all wish we did not know, but we do. What should I do?
—Do I Tell My Friend Her Husband Is Bisexual or Gay?