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kimmiinthemitten

AtomicBlonde said:

Oh, lawd, so Mr. No (remember him?  "I don't want the job," "No, actually I do," bitchfit because he didn't get it) is currently explaining to the new girl in the program how bullshit the system is and that's it's "completely rigged."

Sigh.

This makes so much more sense now...the move, the new job, all of the stress you're under at work...you're freaking Hillary Clinton!

*Barbie*

AtomicBlonde said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

@AtomicBlonde so wait, are your IL's still coming? 

Yes.  Apparently, asking them to stay in a hotel would be "disrespectful."  (IDK WTF he thinks he did to me, or how he thinks I feel, in that case.)  DH admitted he made a mistake and apologized for it and understands why it bothers/upsets me, but changing his mind about them staying is going to be like pulling teeth, and it won't happen.  Honestly, I don't think even if we had had a conversation about it, they'd be staying in a hotel, but we didn't have a conversation, so it's moot and not worth the "what if" mind games.

He says he didn't invite them (and I believe him), but he also still says, "No, no, they didn't invite themselves," which lent itself to a whole new discussion about boundaries and what is and is not appropriate for family to do, regardless of whatever "open door policy we" might have.

So I'm silently stewing at my desk and trying not to feel resentful or hurt because he didn't take into account my feelings, because it wasn't deliberate, but it wasn't not deliberate since he knows how shitty things are between BIL unit and me but chooses to ignore it, so the whole situation makes me feel like this:

@atomicblonde
Your husband is still coming off as a total ass here. Will things improve at all post move - or will they still be showing up at random and expecting to stay?

Your H needs to be the one to tell his family that what they're doing is inappropriate and draw the boundaries that you and he compromise on. Does he really want you to go off on them because they are randomly showing up, staying over uninvited, and pushing your stress through the roof?

I need to find Wonderw1fe's post about her MIL hijacking her house and her H's reaction. It was fantastic. it will give you "husbandgoals