Due to some recent drama with my future in-laws (too much to get into) my FMIL and FFIL reluctantly RSVPed to be at the ceremony for my upcoming wedding - about two weeks away. To be honest, we're not sure if they're even coming to the ceremony even though all planning with vendors is including them (i.e. walk down the aisle, readings, etc.) My FH is obviously upset about this, but is over fighting with him family regarding who should be in the wedding and our choices as we move forward in our life together. Our final head count is due in a few days and despite current events, my FH and his family are very close. I want to reach out to my FMIL to give her one last chance to attend both the ceremony and reception because I think she will regret not going to her oldest sons wedding. I think a simple "Hey, we're working on final arrangements and just wanted to see if you and FFIL had reconsidered coming to the reception. We would love to have you both there to share this special time but don't have much time to make changes" would suffice.
Looking for any ideas/helpful hints for preventing to turn this into a fight. Thank you in advance for your suggestions