Knotties, I need your help on this as my husband has been most upset over the behaviour of his mother and brother and wants to confront them over their behaviour. I believe that we have a right to be upset, but feel that there may be a better way to address the problem other than calling them out.
He is at a loss for their behaviour because as far as he knew - there were no problems / issues. He was also the best man at his brother's wedding a year earlier.
It was a destination wedding to Las Vegas from the UK. Both his mother and brother chose to use it as a holiday eschewing any (fully catered) wedding events such as the rehearsal dinner and stag do to 'do their own thing.'
His brother chose to lie to my husband claiming he 'fell asleep' as the reason he did not attend the stag do and 'forgot' about the rehearsal dinner. We later found out that he had been gambling.
His mother just chose to go on excursions and ignore any attempt made to reach out.
On the day of the wedding we heard nothing from them until the actual ceremony where they made an appearance. Both came to the reception party - once again fully catered / open bar etc. However, they failed to offer any congratulations, did not write in the guest book and sat in the corner of the balcony all evening with faces like thunder.
We received no congratulations, no card or gift from the brother and what I describe as a 'lack lustre' gift from his mother. (A printed piece of paper with the wrong date and time of the wedding and a set of co-ordinates of our wedding ceremony location.)
They did not make contact again despite having at least another 3 days in Vegas.
Obviously, I will be writing thank you notes but these will be particularly difficult.
How would you handle the situation?