Hi! My situation involves two of my first cousins, who are quite a bit older than me and I am not close with. I am definitely inviting my first cousins to the wedding. I'm not sure how to handle their children, though.
My fiance and I decided to make the minimum age the age of our youngest first cousin, who is 16 years old. The issue is that both of the first cousins in question have children who are above and below the line (6 kids total, 3 above and 3 below). The oldest are each around 19 years old and the youngest is in elementary school. I have no relationship with my cousins or their children- I just see them at family gatherings every couple of years. The younger kids might not even know who I am.
Both cousins did not allow children at their weddings so this shouldn't blow their minds. I just want to be respectful.
How do I handle the invitations without insulting to the younger kids or their parents? Is it weird to list some of the kids on the envelope and not list others? Do I just address the invitation to my cousins and write a personal note saying the older children are welcome to attend? Do I write "and family" and then hope they see the age limit on the website?
Any advice would be much appreciated!!