"We met online."

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,
I’ve been dating a fantastic guy for almost a month now. We feel strongly for one another and are hoping to stay together long into the future. The thing is, I met this guy on Tinder. We both wanted a serious relationship from the beginning, but I’m worried that people will see our relationship as something less than it is if I tell them how we met. We are both very serious and shy people who went on Tinder to find a partner because it caused less social anxiety. I know that we’re in the minority and that we have something worth keeping, but I doubt anyone else will make the distinction. What do I say when I’m asked how we met?

bleve0821

Say as much as you're comfortable saying.  If this relationship is real, screw what others think about how you met.

DrillSergeantCat

Yes, a lot of people use Tinder to hook up. Others use it to find friends. Yet others find their great love. It's no big deal. If people make fun of you for that, they're assholes.

charlotte989875

"We met on MulletPassions.com"  

CharmedPam

One of my friends has been in a 1 year relationship already through Tinder.  What's wrong with it?

When I was getting my wedding nails done, the tech was telling me she met her fiance on plenty of fish (another site that's looked down on) and I loved her story!

MissKittyDanger

This is the new 'we met at a bar' .... I don't think people will judge. For all they know, your plan was originally just a hookup and ended up being serious.
{side note - friend of mine was on p.o.f looking for 'just fun' and ended up talking to a guy. things are going well despite it wasn't what she was looking for }

flantastic

My brother is likely going to marry the girl he met on Tinder over a year ago. I have no idea what they were looking for when they signed up, and I don't care. This is overactive self-consciousness, but if you're self-conscious about saying "Tinder," you don't have to go into detail. Post title is adequate. Overthinking it.

ShesSoCold

Yeah this is NBD IMHO, but "we met online" is fine if saying Tinder makes them uncomfortable.

H and I "met through friends". I don't feel the need to tell his grandma or my boss that H was my high school boyfriend's best friend and I started banging him while still with some other guy. We met through friends.

baconsmom

Trust me. Way less embarrassing than meeting at Denny's. 

InLoveInQueens

I met my husband on OkCupid, my brother is proposing in three weeks to a girl he met on tumblr, my best friend is dating a guy she met on Craigslist, it's really becoming the new norm to meet SOs on the internet, dating sites, hookup sites, blogging sites, whatever.

Hopefully people stop being so judgey about it soon, it's sucks feeling the judgement when you share how you met if it was through less "traditional" means.

kimmiinthemitten

I met my FI on the old peoples Tinder, Plenty of Fish. We tell people we met on the sleezy, free website. 

If your relationship is strong, who cares how you met?

short+sassy

InLoveInQueens said:

I met my husband on OkCupid, my brother is proposing in three weeks to a girl he met on tumblr, my best friend is dating a guy she met on Craigslist, it's really becoming the new norm to meet SOs on the internet, dating sites, hookup sites, blogging sites, whatever.

Hopefully people stop being so judgey about it soon, it's sucks feeling the judgement when you share how you met if it was through less "traditional" means.

I think meeting online is the new "tradition", lol.  My H and I met on Yahoo Personals.  Back when it was free.  I don't even know if it is still around, lol.

But I get it.  I think it's more the reputation Tinder has for being a hook-up site.  Quite frankly, since I've been with my H for over 15 years and am not "up" on the latest singles sites, it took a long time before I even realized what Tinder was and then "kind of" picked up on its unsavory reputation.

It's possible I'm just naïve and sorry for being a little ageist, but I wouldn't be surprised if the older and/or longer married people of her family would even know about Tinder's reputation.

Really, though.  If she's introducing this guy to her friends and family as her b/f and they are talking about themselves as a couple, I think people quickly figure out they are not a one-night-stand even if that is their assumption about Tinder. 

thefanciestbeckler

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

MissKittyDanger

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

bleve0821

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

I met DH when he randomly knocked on my front door and asked to use my shower.

thisismynickname2

MissKittyDanger said:

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thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

Please tell me you met over the cucumbers!

DH and I met on Match. My sister and her DH on Yahoo Personals. Most of my prior boyfriends were met on online sites, including MySpace. Those relationships fared far better than any dates met through "traditional means."

Say yes to pre-screening! 

ShesSoCold

AtomicBlonde said:

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thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

I met DH when he randomly knocked on my front door and asked to use my shower.

I gotta know more than that.

DrillSergeantCat

H and I met on Facebook. 

thefanciestbeckler

thisismynickname said:

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MissKittyDanger said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

Please tell me you met over the cucumbers!

DH and I met on Match. My sister and her DH on Yahoo Personals. Most of my prior boyfriends were met on online sites, including MySpace. Those relationships fared far better than any dates met through "traditional means."

Say yes to pre-screening! 

No, even better. We met at the meat counter.

DH was the butcher at The Fresh Market and I'd had a crush on him for months. I could never get up the nerve to talk to him until one day when my mom basically threatened to embarrass me in front of him. So I gave him my phone number in a Christmas card and he called me about 3 hours later on his lunch break. We went on our first date 3 days later and have been together ever since Our anniversary of meeting is actually coming up in a couple of weeks!

ShesSoCold

thefanciestbeckler said:

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thisismynickname said:

MissKittyDanger said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

Please tell me you met over the cucumbers!

DH and I met on Match. My sister and her DH on Yahoo Personals. Most of my prior boyfriends were met on online sites, including MySpace. Those relationships fared far better than any dates met through "traditional means."

Say yes to pre-screening! 

No, even better. We met at the meat counter.

DH was the butcher at The Fresh Market and I'd had a crush on him for months. I could never get up the nerve to talk to him until one day when my mom basically threatened to embarrass me in front of him. So I gave him my phone number in a Christmas card and he called me about 3 hours later on his lunch break. We went on our first date 3 days later and have been together ever since Our anniversary of meeting is actually coming up in a couple of weeks!

I wanna pull a your mom on my sister. She's had a crush on this beer man for years. Well, he's an identical twin so I guess both of them. The first time we saw one without the other (they used to sell at the same cart), she refused to ask him where his hot brother was. Now it's become a joke but he's in our section for every Bears game and we've seen him at Cubs and Hawks games too.

ginnybinny17

My mom met her husband on eHarmony, one of my best friends met his wife on Tinder, and I met FI on Okcupid.  At first he was kind of embarrassed to tell people that's how we met but I really do not give a single Christmas tree what people think about how the two of us met.

Besides, it's a great story to tell.  Apparently he asked me to brunch for our first date so he could go on a SECOND date later that day for dinner.  But our brunch date went so well he cancelled on the other gal.  Sorry, lady.

MissKittyDanger

ShesSoCold said:

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thefanciestbeckler said:

thisismynickname said:

MissKittyDanger said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

Please tell me you met over the cucumbers!

DH and I met on Match. My sister and her DH on Yahoo Personals. Most of my prior boyfriends were met on online sites, including MySpace. Those relationships fared far better than any dates met through "traditional means."

Say yes to pre-screening! 

No, even better. We met at the meat counter.

DH was the butcher at The Fresh Market and I'd had a crush on him for months. I could never get up the nerve to talk to him until one day when my mom basically threatened to embarrass me in front of him. So I gave him my phone number in a Christmas card and he called me about 3 hours later on his lunch break. We went on our first date 3 days later and have been together ever since Our anniversary of meeting is actually coming up in a couple of weeks!

I wanna pull a your mom on my sister. She's had a crush on this beer man for years. Well, he's an identical twin so I guess both of them. The first time we saw one without the other (they used to sell at the same cart), she refused to ask him where his hot brother was. Now it's become a joke but he's in our section for every Bears game and we've seen him at Cubs and Hawks games too.

@thefanciestbeckler  I laughed more than I should have XD

@ShesSoCold  DO IT!!! She will thank you later

MissKittyDanger

I met M bowling and he was suppose to actually be set up with a friend of mine XD

short+sassy

ShesSoCold said:

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AtomicBlonde said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

I met DH when he randomly knocked on my front door and asked to use my shower.

I gotta know more than that.

Oh, no @AtomicBlonde!!!  You can't drop that bombshell and run .

I have porno music going through my head.

bleve0821

ShesSoCold said:

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AtomicBlonde said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

I met DH when he randomly knocked on my front door and asked to use my shower.

I gotta know more than that.

He was supposed to go to a football game with my roommate, only my roommate neglected to tell me his brother was coming over. Well, I guess technically he did tell me in passing that his brother was coming over, but despite being roommates for three years, I didn't know he had TWO brothers, so it wasn't the brother I expected to see.   Anyway, DH says he saw me and was immediately aware that he probably reeked of the moonshine he drank liberally the night before, which is why he asked to use my shower.  Shockingly, my roommate was not there to confirm or deny the identity of this stranger (who looks nothing like his brothers), and not knowing what else to do with such a strange request, I let him in.

They didn't make it to the football game.  We went on our first date instead.  No regrets.

ETA in retrospect, he probably didn't "randomly" knock on the door, but that's the way it felt when I opened it.

Another edit to mention that was THE ONLY thing he said when I opened the door.  No introduction.  No "Is Frank here."  Just, "Can I use your shower."

thefanciestbeckler

ShesSoCold said:

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thefanciestbeckler said:

thisismynickname said:

MissKittyDanger said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I met my college boyfriend on MySpace and I picked DH up at a grocery store. No shame.

"Pasta, milk, ooh sale on nutella and boyfriends!"

I need more or I've decided that's the story

Please tell me you met over the cucumbers!

DH and I met on Match. My sister and her DH on Yahoo Personals. Most of my prior boyfriends were met on online sites, including MySpace. Those relationships fared far better than any dates met through "traditional means."

Say yes to pre-screening! 

No, even better. We met at the meat counter.

DH was the butcher at The Fresh Market and I'd had a crush on him for months. I could never get up the nerve to talk to him until one day when my mom basically threatened to embarrass me in front of him. So I gave him my phone number in a Christmas card and he called me about 3 hours later on his lunch break. We went on our first date 3 days later and have been together ever since Our anniversary of meeting is actually coming up in a couple of weeks!

I wanna pull a your mom on my sister. She's had a crush on this beer man for years. Well, he's an identical twin so I guess both of them. The first time we saw one without the other (they used to sell at the same cart), she refused to ask him where his hot brother was. Now it's become a joke but he's in our section for every Bears game and we've seen him at Cubs and Hawks games too.

@ShesSoCold you really should do it! Literally the worst thing that could happen is he won't be interested. I don't regret it! Never knowing would have been worse than a little rejection. I bet your sister would thank you later

kimmiinthemitten

@thefanciestbeckler and @atomicblonde I'm total jealous of both of your meeting stories!

Heffalump

I have the most boring meeting story for DH:  we met at work.

When the Christmas party rolled around, I was still dating my flaky college boyfriend, who (predictably) flaked on the party.  I was dateless, so I ended up sitting next to DH.  We started talking, he made me laugh so hard, and we haven't stopped.

ThisShamanluvsaMage

I met FI on World of Warcraft.  That one gets a lot of strange looks.

mrsconn23

DH and I have been together so long that we met the good ol' fashioned way...in a bar.    

But it was a set up.  We had mutual friends who were dating and thought we'd be 'perfect' together.   

MissKittyDanger

Funny story about 2 friends. They went to high school, didn't date, didn't even really know each other. Even sat at the same table for prom!
Didn't end up hooking up until almost 5 yrs ago {5yrs in Feb} I always laugh at that story