Hello folks. This is my first post. Thanks for a great forum. I've been lurking here for months and there's a ton of excellent advice here.
After two and a half years of being engaged, much humming and hawing, family drama, many crying spells and anxiety attacks on my part, FI and I are 95% decided that we're just going to fly to Vegas for a fun little wedding and built-in honeymoon, for half of what it would have cost us for even a cheap "normal" wedding back home. I could even pay for it today with what I have saved up. (Thanks for your site, vegasgroom! Very helpful!) This has been an enormous sense of relief for me; I'm actually excited for my wedding instead of dreading it.
So, we're not decided on a date, and it won't be a secret or private, but we know most of our guests won't be able to make it. My basic question is, how do you decide to whom to send invites to your wedding when you know they can't make it, or you're just not that close to them that you'd expect them to hop on a plane for you? Do you just pare the invite list down to closest friends and family? There were 75 on our original list, and quite a few were in that category of "people who would have come if it was local, but don't know us well enough to invest in a vacation for us." I guess I just feel guilty for sending frivolous invites when we're in our 40s and already established in our home. It feels like we'd be asking for gifts. We aren't. We just want everyone to know that they'd be more than welcome to show up for the wedding. (And if enough showed up, heck, we'd shell out for a small reception, but the odds of that are remote.
Thanks for letting me think out loud.