Invitations

Glasshalfempty

Technically, yes, very rude to not invite someone you have verbally invited. But what if you haven't spoken to them for a year? And have no intention of resuming a friendship. Would you still invite?

AddieCake

Glasshalfempty said:

Technically, yes, very rude to not invite someone you have verbally invited. But what if you haven't spoken to them for a year? And have no intention of resuming a friendship. Would you still invite?

I wouldn't. If I haven't spoken to you in a year, why would I invite you to my wedding? Conversely, if you haven't spoken to me in a year, I'd find it odd to receive an invitation to your wedding. 

Jen4948

Under these specific circumstances, I don't think you need to spend them an invitaction.  Had there been some kind of contact between you, though, it would be very rude not to follow a verbal invitation with an actual paper one.

Glasshalfempty

Thanks, it's someone I'm trying to cut out over my life over the next year. One of my New Years Resolutions to remove toxic people. Unfortunately I mentioned it to her (verbally) last year before I realised she's probably not a friend I want to keep. 
I assume there will be some minor contact from their end as I try to fade this person out of my life. 

SP29

If you are ending your relationship with this person, it would follow that this person would not be invited to your wedding.

thisismynickname2

Glasshalfempty said:

Thanks, it's someone I'm trying to cut out over my life over the next year. One of my New Years Resolutions to remove toxic people. Unfortunately I mentioned it to her (verbally) last year before I realised she's probably not a friend I want to keep. 
I assume there will be some minor contact from their end as I try to fade this person out of my life. 

I think if you had a verbal mention and not a Save the Date, you're fine to not invite that person.

Weddings come up in conversation all the time. Engagements are often a year or longer. Relationships change. Sorrynotsorry, but I started cutting ties with a friend in my college group after getting engaged and I didn't invite her to the wedding. No STD, no invite. Even 6 weeks prior to the date she was asking me about travel plans and I had to point blank tell her she wasn't invited. It was on FB messenger but still incredibly uncomfortable. If your friend is as toxic as mine was, don't feel bad about cutting her out and not inviting her! Life is better without people like that!