Save the dates

Keisha84

Hello

I belong to a few Facebook groups for couples getting married in 2018. A lot of people in these groups have sent out their STDs for their weddings in 2018. Am I right in thinking this is way too early? I know I have a lot of time before I even have to think about STDs but this just had me puzzled.
 
My FI and I have family in the West Indies that have to secure visas in order to travel. To get these visas they generally have to show proof of why they are travelling. I don't want to send a STD to some guests and delay the rest. 
Would it be rude to send out STDs  9-12 months in advance? 

msuprincess04

No, it's not rude. Most STDs go out 9-12 months in advance.

southernbelle0915

9-12 months is a normal timeline for save the dates.

For your international family/friends, you can always tell them via word of mouth if you have a date picked out. If it's not enough for their visa, find out what they need.

charlotte989875

I think 9-12 months is pretty typical, and as someone who lives OOT from all my family and close friends I really appreciate the longer lead time to plan things out. We travel a lot both for work and fun so the earlier we know when things are, the better. 

I would send them all at once though and not delay. As remote as the possibility is that someone is in the "early" batch and talks to someone in the "later" batch about the STD you probably want to avoid that if at all possible. 

Keisha84

southernbelle0915 said:

9-12 months is a normal timeline for save the dates.

For your international family/friends, you can always tell them via word of mouth if you have a date picked out. If it's not enough for their visa, find out what they need.

We do have a date picked out and most know I think, however, we sometimes have to write them a letter stating they are visiting and where they will be staying. It really depends on the immigration officer they get. A few times they have been denied and had to start the process all over again. I am hoping the STD will be OK to start and if they need anything else I can send their invitations early with a letter.

I will send them all out at once, so my mom and dad don't get calls wondering why aunt so and so was invited and not them Thanks ladies!

Cookie Pusher

As a reminder to lurkers, STDS are typically sent 9-12 months out, but remember that anyone who gets a STD must then be sent an invitation to the wedding. I wouldn't send one to every single guest unless you are absolutely certain they will make the cut for the invitation list. Stuff happens, budgets change, etc.