Alternative role for the fathers at the wedding

Knottie170ea96aa0da739a

So my fiance and I will be having a non traditional wedding in many ways. We will walk down the aisle together and we will bring the mothers and stepmom an important role during the unity ceremony. As we both decided that we wanted the important presence of our mothers to be highlighted instead of the traditional father hands down the bride or father/daughter dance kind of thing. But I worry to let the fathers and stepdad to be left without a participation too. Does anyone has some unique ideas on how to celebrate them in our wedding? We'll appreciate the criative sugggestions.

missJeanLouise

Knottie170ea96aa0da739a said:

So my fiance and I will be having a non traditional wedding in many ways. We will walk down the aisle together and we will bring the mothers and stepmom an important role during the unity ceremony. As we both decided that we wanted the important presence of our mothers to be highlighted instead of the traditional father hands down the bride or father/daughter dance kind of thing. But I worry to let the fathers and stepdad to be left without a participation too. Does anyone has some unique ideas on how to celebrate them in our wedding? We'll appreciate the criative sugggestions.

You can have them do a reading or something. Do they want to be involved? I know that my stepdad was relieved to not have to do anything as he is quite shy. Have they offered to do anything or mentioned a tradition that is important to them? I think it would be easiest to talk with them and ask if/ how they want to be involved.

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charlotte989875

Are you having any readings? They could both do a reading, or each do part of one reading. You can also dance with them at the reception; it doesn't have to be a spotlight dance, just take time to dance with them with it being a big thing.  

SP29

They can be part of the processional and escort their wives to their ceremony seats.

short+sassy

PPs have good answers.  You all could also buy them each a bout, if you aren't already.

MobKaz

Knottie170ea96aa0da739a said:

So my fiance and I will be having a non traditional wedding in many ways. We will walk down the aisle together and we will bring the mothers and stepmom an important role during the unity ceremony. As we both decided that we wanted the important presence of our mothers to be highlighted instead of the traditional father hands down the bride or father/daughter dance kind of thing. But I worry to let the fathers and stepdad to be left without a participation too. Does anyone has some unique ideas on how to celebrate them in our wedding? We'll appreciate the criative sugggestions.

As a MOB and MOG, I had no expectation to be "celebrated" in a wedding that featured my children.  Their wedding was not about me or their father.  With the exception of walking down the aisle, which I don't really see as any type of celebration, I was not involved in either son nor daughter's wedding ceremony. Don't over think this.

southernbelle0915

- processional
- front row seating
- reading
- head table/good reception seats
- mention in programs
- pictures

cupcait927

I had my dad walk me down the aisle, and both of our moms were part of our unity ceremony. I wanted to make sure my FIL had something "to do" because he has a tendency to get super butt hurt if he feels he's being left out, so we had him hold the rings and bring them up during that part of the ceremony. Just another suggestion. 

SP29

Good idea above. They can present the rings, or sign the marriage certificate as your witnesses.